That attitude made my life pretty rough. It didn’t allow me to be a strong, full, human living a full human experience. The world’s great masters have all wept. They’ve all shown emotion. They’re all passionate, if you pay attention.
So I learned. I learned that I could choose any quality I wanted, and be whatever I wanted.
I also learned that some qualities are better at certain times, and certain situations, for me personally.
I also learned that I generally lean towards ‘masculine’ qualities, and I like it that way. It’s my preference.
So if you’re like me, maybe no one taught you anything about this. Maybe your life could be a lot better, especially in relationships whether business or personal.
And I want to help, so I’m gonna share what I’ve learned.
There are a variety of qualities people can embody, but they don’t teach you much about them in school. You could be missing out on some qualities that will create amazing results in your life, because you’ve never really paid attention to them. Take an easy step to changing that, read about them below.
Can you feel it? If you pay attention, can you?
Right now, this very moment, can you feel how developed your ‘integrity’ is? Or how ‘radiant’ you are?
Some people have never even seen those words.
Some people get it, though. They’re sensitive to what qualities they’re bringing to the table.
And people have a sort of, unspoken agreement on which qualities are ‘more masculine’ and which are ‘more feminine’.
Of course, everyone has the option – they feel inside that they have the freedom to express any quality they want, it’s true.
Everyone can also feel whether or not they’ve developed certain qualities well or not-so-well.
If you haven’t developed certain qualities, there’s a strong chance could be making your life… well… suck. If you step up and focus on them clearly, you can generate massive change.
A loner who’s spent his whole life focused on, and driven towards money, might get huge benefits from focusing a bit on sharing, patience, and love.
A social-butterfly who’s flitted from group to group, never really standing for something or building something substantial, might get big results from focusing on stability, discipline, and authenticity.
So understanding these two sides and using them to rock your life, is recommended.
"Of course once you are enlightened, you have gone beyond the discrimination of sexes. Beyond enlightenment, you are simply human beings. But before that…. Be proud of your qualities. Increase them, refine them because they are the path towards godliness. Man is not in a better position than woman as far as religious experience is concerned." – Osho
Now this doesn’t mean you need masculine or feminine qualities, it’s to help you have clarity and freedom to create a personal blend of qualities that suit you. And they’ll even change at different times.
Irina Krush – http://bigthink.com/ideas/24776
FEMININE
If you’re a chick (or like being feminine): Refine these qualities, really embody them and live them in every moment you get the chance to. Make them be a magical part of what other people feel from you.
If you’re a guy (or like being masculine): Realize that these have a role, they are not to be judged, they are to be leveraged to help you reach your goals.
- Surrender
- Reception
- Emotion
- Radiance
- Flow
- Sensuality
- Nurturing
- Affection
- Sharing
- Gentleness
- Patience
- Love
Come on now, how many of you would be thrilled and head over heels if someone in your life was more "receptive, radiant, and surrendered" ?
MASCULINE
If you’re a guy (or like being masculine): Refine these qualities, focus on them, really perfect them and extend them as much as you can.
If you’re a chick (or like being feminine): Realize these qualities exist and they can add to your radiance, beauty, and how you connect with other human beings. You could use a little of these in your life.
- Freedom
- Direction
- Logic
- Focus
- Integrity
- Stability
- Passion
- Independence
- Discipline
- Confidence
- Aware
- Authentic
(Remember: Like attracts like. If you want it, you’ve gotta be a MATCH for it.)
Alright, so these are some of the key traits that you can make use of.
Chances are that there’s some on this list that can change your life in very, very good ways, but it takes some honesty.
You gotta take a good look at your life and yourself, and see what suits you.
For a lot of people it’s scary to say "I enjoy surrender. I’d like to do that more often in safe environments." For others it’s scary to say "I’m passionate and authentic and I do what I want, when I want, consequences or not."
Like most scary things in life, if you can amp yourself up, psyche yourself up, and imagine the new, improved, better version of you, and take the steps — the rewards are great.
So don’t wait, don’t delay, don’t hesitate — open up your email client right now, and send yourself and email that says:
"I now choose to be habitually more <BLANK>." – where <BLANK> is a trait that’s calling to you.
And I’m really interested in what traits are doin’ it for you, so leave a 1 word answer in the comments, which trait is your focus for now. 
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Great post Jason! I will definitely be rereading this article a few more times to really soak in the goodness.
My word is Discipline. Nothing quite beats consistency on ever-improving ones personal success habits.
Thanks man, re-reading is really powerful. It gives your mind and body space to absorb the fresh ideas and make them a habit. And you can get faster at it
Discipline / consistency in success-habits is awesome. Keep rockin’ man!
You know I have to pick “nurturing” right?
(sensuality would be a close second)
You rock, Denise.
lol, nurturing and sensual, eh? S’why we get along so well
BTW: I choose: FOCUS
Passion.
One I’ve loved for a looong time. Amen to that, Kawlinz
I asked kawlinz to help me and we both came up with almost same ones:
Emotion I think with my heart then my head, nurturing- speaks for itself, Affection did you know people who get hugs 12 times or more a day are more well rounded, balanced and succesful, sharing- whats mine can be yours (= and love I have alot to give <3
Beautiful.
Woo! That was 5!
Perhaps we should add “Excellent” since you excelled at the task
Doesn’t it feel good to choose words like that?
go big or go home lol like I said what ever Vin needs I will do what i can for him as I know he will for me!!
There you have it ladies + gentlemen…
THAT is a radiant woman, supporting her and her man’s success.
You saw it here first
Also, couples ryzing together really brings a feeling of togetherness and community to this site, so thank you both very much for contributing.
Hey Jason, I dig this post man! Really awesome stuff here! Embodying different characteristics of the masculine and feminine essence is very powerful! I think you may have already, but David Deida has some real cool books very similar to what you talk about – one I like a lot is The Way of the Superior Man.
So glad to hear it Matt! Respect.
Hahhaha! It’s funny you mention Deida. I’m nearly obsessive about him. I made a website for his right-hand chick (Michaela Boehm), and I once made a 100mb Tribute Downloadable ZIP of his works (quotes, posters, audios, interviews, etc.).
I might have it somewhere if you want it.
Thanks for being here and contributing man!
P.S. Have you read the sex god method? I think you would like it. I have a copy if you want (and probably some other stuff too.) Shoot me an email when you’re free. Peace !
I know the name, and think I saw a site hosting it once, but I’ve not actually read it. I’d love it if you felt like sharing
jason [at] ryzeonline [dawt] come
Haha, oh man, I love connecting with like-minded people. It is like family members I didn’t know existed… all who have similar mindsets, beliefs, and goals…. and who have also read/studied the same content – so cool!
Dude, that zip would be awesome! Let me know if you don’t have my email. And sure thing brother, keep up the greatness !!
Matt, I know what you mean.
It feels incredible to connect with someone like-minded, but who also brings their own unique value to the table.
Consider it done, and it’s actually 175mb (I haven’t shared it since I took the site down
) – I do NOT have your e-mail, as a matter of fact (unless you signed up for the biology-changing Success E-Course 
)
Also, I have a theory about that:
We are all born into families and friends, some of which DON’T suit us, specifically so that we come to deep realizations of WHO does suit us.
It’s a bit of an off-the-wall concept, but it makes sense when you really think about it.
Nature set it up like that for a reason
Makes perfect sense to me. Regardless of whether or not they are family or friends, our sphere of influence is the strongest influence. Our environment we choose is super important. My email is mrhorwitz@gmail.com – maybe you can send it via dropbox?
Thanks man!
It’s already sent, mediafire
Here it is again in case:
http://www.mediafire.com/file/3w2cdmurrr0cjmd/ryze-presents-david-deida-sexy-tribute.zip
Awesome~thanks Jason !
Love this post. Love Deida and the sexy tribute. My one word would be surrender, though I know my “superior man” will take care of that one
And this post loves YOU, Tor.
And that’s thing, according to Deida, you CAN’T attract said “superior man” until you yourself can animate and express that ‘surrender’ at all times, in your mind and body, habitually.
Then the guy can be attracted.
So says the great and powerful Deida
Fantastic
Done and done 
I figured as much.
You’re a badass Ryzing Star
Ditto
Hug, can you feel the surrender??
lol, I can! You so sexy
Hah! I grew since this post was written and I am now able to demonstrate more powerfully-uplifting authenticity with myself and with the public. I now know that my word is actually surrender too, surrender to LOVE!
It’s the best feeling, the appropriate focus, it’s a meaningful intention, it helps ever-grow, ever Ryze it, when you prioritize it. Love, that is
Thank you for the focus, and the uber-good mentoring session today!
Thank YOU man. You are a role model for students everywhere. Real talk, man. You are a true, powerful, student of LIFE.
Respect.
Ryze! I love this stuff. I chose 2 from each. Surrender and Freedom. Should make this a word-motto for 2012. Reminds me of Jake Gyllenhaal, Man Vs Wild http://youtu.be/l-BkZM1OA4o. Surrendering to fear, whilst free on an adventure.
Wooo! Thanks for contributing
I love it, Gemma. Surrender and freedom often seem at odds, but in reality, they play nice.
Very cool Man Vs. Wild clip! Good for Jake for wading through that river and ice-climbing lol.
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I think you are spot on the female characteristics. But men also have them to a certain extent. There is a lot of overlap though such as compassion and love, anger and all that sort of stuff.
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Definitely, Shalu – you’re right — there’s always a ‘spot of yin in the yang’ and vice-versa
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Beautiful post!
I can’t pick one. I feel like I need to work on a lot of these… but patience and sharing are definite priorities!
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You know it, Glori! There’s so much gold here, and I’m glad you’re open to it. Love your positive attitude, and any focus you put on these traits is going to help, for sure
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For me, it’s FLOW……………. I need to flow with stuff and just be happy in order to join the flow of the universe and be part of the party. That was how I used to roll, man and I was THE s$it (do you allow such phrases on your blog?) but I lost my way and I am trying to find that awesome version of myself it seems I have lost. She’s in there somwhere, buried by the crap life threw at her, yet I must find her and release her again.
That was the feminine word. The masculine word would be PASSION, because that is what life’s about!
Ahh, a great word, and a great way to live.
Flow and be part of the party – is totally my style
That version of you is closer than you think — the fact that you’re reading Ryze is a good indicator.
As for swearing on Ryze, I think I need to highlight this post:
http://ryzeonline.com/swear-to-offend-you – You’ll enjoy it
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Neither have I! I’ve been on my best behavior!
Hmmm… Kat, this place welcomes ‘bad girls’ too
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