"I don’t know how you do it man. I am working so hard and not giving up. I know what to do, but sometimes I just feel like I got to head out and start beating the shit out of my wrongdoers once and for all." – An email I received recently.
Have you ever felt this way? Ever said something like this?
Even more likely, you’ve thought "I just want more money", "I just want better friends", "I just wanna get laid", etc.
But WHY do you want that stuff?
‘Cause really, deep down, you think it’ll make you happy.
See… people just wanna be happy. They just wanna achieve their dreams. Is that so wrong?
I’ve been focused on that my whole life, and for a while I thought I could "make" people happy with my logic and my words (because let’s admit it, my logic and my words are super-awesome )The thing is, no dream ever comes true while you’re trying to MAKE it happen.
I’ve tried to MAKE a lot of things happen, and it’s really painful.A successful life requires more than JUST action, life’s bigger than that.
- Life’s bigger than that.
- Life’s more mystical than that.
- Life’s way beyond the right strategy, the right tactics, or the ‘right’ anything.
If you’re not open to that, you might as well stop reading this post. Hell, stop reading ryze, because every human being who’s risen to great heights thanks God.
Every human being who’s risen to great heights has lived for something greater.
And I get people asking how I’m so positive, so I’m gonna tell you.
I have millions of tools to be positive, like really… a lot.
And I’m gonna share an absolutely incredible tool with you one with you, and I want you to understand how valuable it is.
Just because it’s ‘free’ in a ‘blog post’, doesn’t mean skip it.
In fact, it means PAY MORE ATTENTION, because blog posts are treacherous territory where people can be distracted from incredible solutions.
Not you though, you’re way too smart for that, and you know Ryze delivers gold.
And the tool I’m about to share will open doors for you beyond doors, because it’s a core foundation of success but NO ONE. Absolutely NO ONE on the net teaches it the way I’m about to teach it.
But first, I’m gonna tell you a story about when I was homeless with my girlfriend.
Cold, shivering sleep on a damp grass bed.
It was still morning, but the clouds had already gathered and started to rumble.
Downtown, which was already pretty grey, looked even greyer.
My feet were killing me from weeks of living homeless. I couldn’t walk anymore, and we didn’t even have enough to stay up all night in an internet cafe.
I knew Hailey and I needed a creative solution, but none were really jumping to mind, y’know?
So I did what I and most people do when they get their backs to the wall.
I gave up, let go, and enjoyed the day.
Hailey and I read a book, we shared a McDouble, and we played a game.
Sometimes the people around us aren’t able to see our situations too positively. I needed a break.
I went to one of the nicer bathroom stalls in the Manulife Center, took out a notepad, and started writing.
Homeless, no place to sleep, and a rain-storm on the way, and I chose to write.
The thing is, I’ve probably written more stuff that I appreciate about life — in much darker times — than anyone you know.
I’ve filled up hundreds of notebooks with art and writings and ideas about things I love.
I’ve filled up hundreds of text files with more of the same.
- If someone spends thousands of hours swimming, what do they get good at?
- If someone spends thousands of hours engineering, what do they get good at?
- If someone spends thousands of hours appreciating things, what do they get good at?
So I got good at seeing the best in things, and turning negatives into opportunities.
And a lot of it shines through in my writing and conversation.
Anyway, I didn’t know what the day would bring, I didn’t know where we’d sleep that night, and everything looked shitty, period.
I didn’t have money, I didn’t feel comfortable turning to any family or friends (they hadn’t shown much support for my life choices at the time), I didn’t want to enter the govt. system, and I didn’t want to hear any negativity from my girl.
So I wrote good things, it always helped.
I left the stall and went back to Hailey, and I took us to the libray to trawl Craigslist for opportunities.
And that night I had a brilliant inspiration.
I created a bed out of nothing.
Or almost nothing.
I made it out of our clothes and bags, and slept next to Hailey under a really big tree in Queen’s Park.
And you know what?
After I found a place with no lumps… I slept great.
I mean really, really well.
It was one of the best, most energizing sleeps of my life.
The waking up was a bit rough, heh.
(Did you know that dew will suddenly appear under you during the night? So you wake up in a cold puddle? Yeah, that happened.)
But I also woke up to a client wanting some web design work, enough to get me back on my feet.
If you got your back to the wall, world’s looking bleak, and nothing seems to be working – focus on something positive – life responds to focus. Focus is a vital skill, and writing is a gateway to focus that even a kindergardener could do.
So what’s the story mean?
It means you’re here on earth to experience some crap.
Oh I know, somewhere in the back of your mind, you probably believe there’s a way to AVOID experiencing sucky things.
Which is why you worry and try to avoid things like homelessness.
To AVOID crap.
You can’t avoid crap — it’s part of life. Much like birth, growth, and death. You never hear anyone trying to avoid being born, or avoid growing, but you always hear about people trying to avoid crap.
But there is a way to experience ‘crappy’ things in a different way, like I did.
And like all successful people do, in their own way.
They might not write, but they have attitudes, ideas, and ways to feel differently about their experiences.
Read their biographies and you’ll see, at a dark time, they were able to summon something from within and focus on something beautiful.
Successful people appreciate things at all times, they appreciate the sun that rises, the air we breathe.
They have deep desire and powerful beliefs that something will get them through, and they don’t spend their time bitching in e-mails and blog posts.
If you really feel like you need to write something or type it out — there are millions of words to choose from to express yourself. Try some good ones
"I remember bein’ blind to it
’til the day I put my mind to it
Pen and pad on the dress for me to fine tune it
I sat in a corner, made up my mind do it." – Rick Ross, Rich Forever
Successful people focus. They practically all write. They take repsonsiblity for their lives. (I don’t think you could find me an example of successful person who doesn’t do these things.)
They also do what they want, live how they want, and have fun with their lives
These things all go hand in hand.
- You can’t have a ballin’ life if worrying circumstances instantly cripple you.
- You can’t have a ballin’ life if the ‘dark future’ in front of you stops you from breathing or enjoying a walk or playing a game.
- You can’t have a ballin’ life if you abandon your ability to focus and get sucked into your own drama.
Sorry, that’s just how life works.
And it’s okay, ’cause I believe in you, and I believe you’re bigger than any problems and I want to help you.
So I’m gonna give you my number one tool to master life — and it’s ripped off almost completely from Abraham-Hicks, who’s meditations, process, ideas, and speeches I’ve listened to obsessively for the last 7 years.
They’re the inspiration for the movie The Secret and they basically started the law of attraction movement.
Now this stuff is pretty ridiculous to most people – if that’s you, fine keep trying standard strategies + tactics if they work for you.
Either way, I know I’m sharing something super-fucking-valuable and it’ll change your life if you give it an honest, open-minded shot.
It’s either that or wait til your back’s to the wall, like I did.
The tool I’m gonna share with you is called an ‘Emotional Grid’
So you’ve tried everything, right? Nothing works, right?Wrong. You haven’t tried everything, you’ve tried every standard action.
I’ve spent a ton of my life trying to make sales or make my business work or make myself succeed.
I’ve tried all the "standard advice".
It doesn’t work.
But you probably already know that, you’ve tried making stuff happen too.
You want a fresh idea?
Ask yourself this: what’s the most powerful force to change lives? Hint: Jon Morrow knows, Brian Clark knows.
The most powerful thing to change lives is emotion.So then… have you ever tried managing your own emotion?
It’s not hard, but it’s certainly rare.
Abraham-Hicks teaches ‘emotional grids’. They’re simple, and really powerful, and I’m gonna take you step-by-step through one.
And you know what it really is? It’s got a fancy name, but It’s just like, 7-9 words — but not just any words.
It’s positive, emotional words with deep personal meaning.
Let’s say you’ve been struggling with something for a long time (money, health, relationships, homelessness, whatever.)
So you choose words that are powerful direct opposites of all that. Use a thesaurus if you have to.
Tired of struggle? Use words like ease, flow, comfort, etc.
Get the idea?
I’ll show you one that I used for homelessness, because I didn’t want to be homeless, I didn’t want to be separated from Hailey, I didn’t want to beg, and I didn’t want to feel like an ass.
Those were important to me, but where to start? What action could you take?
Bascially none — but you can use the power of emotions, which changes lives.
I knew I couldn’t just bitch about what I didn’t want, and I needed to create an emotional grid to rely on, so the first word I started with is "ease", and I put it right in the center.
Then I added "stable" and "comfortable."
Then I added "inviting" and "welcoming."
Then I added "fun" and "affordable."
Then I added "appreciated."
And I finished with "loving."
For most people being homeless would be a dark, painful, scary time – and yes, it had moments of that for me – but most of it was pretty positive.
I felt free, I felt happy, I felt at peace. I’d managed my emotions well.
And not long after I got in the zone, feeling positive and appreciating parts of my life, a solution presented itself.
Out of the blue, a friend I hadn’t talked to in 3 years e-mailed me and said: "J, honestly, I’d like to invite you to live with me.
I’d feel better if you and Hailey came to live with me. I don’t get a lot of company and you’re such a joy to have around, I’d gladly have you stay here."
So Hailey and I moved in with him, and it felt like heaven.
And the more I master my emotions, the more things go my way.
Now, I had to figure this out because I got pushed with my back to the wall. Hopefully no one’s forcing you to be in some horrible situation to learn the power of emotional grids.
You’re blessed, you get to read about it from me, and learn from my dark times.
This isn’t some chump-change thing to try once — this is something to practice. This is something to make habit, and it will change your entire life. It will take you so far towards your dreams and wants, but even better than that, it’ll make the "hard" journey actually enjoyable.
This is close to a magic bullet.
I said "close to", don’t have a fit.
It’s NOT a magic bullet, but it’s very powerful and it’s very rare.
I’m sharing it in public with you, but it’s still rare, because it’s only meant for people who are ready for it. Who get it.
It’s easy, it takes no money, barely any time (I did it in a bathroom stall), and it brings insane results.
And this is a key point…
It takes focus. Once you’ve established your emotional grid, YOU CAN’T SPEND THE REST OF YOUR DAY WORRYING.
You have to take a breath and focus on that beautiful feeling of ease, or pride, or comfort or whatever you put in your grid.
Do it well. If you do anything in your life well, make it emotional mastery.
Please, I care about you, I want you to succeed, and I want you to learn something ridiculously powerful.
Will everyone who reads this try it? No.
Will everyone who reads this "get it?" No.
But if I’ve touched any of you please use it, and teach it to someone else.
Humanity can use more happy people. It really can.
So I’d love to hear you guys try it. I know it’s personal, but I’ve shared some pretty personal stuff here — if you can write down some words in your grids in the comments, that’d rock, and help all of us ryze.
It’ll be the most positive comments section on the net