"I don’t know how you do it man. I am working so hard and not giving up. I know what to do, but sometimes I just feel like I got to head out and start beating the shit out of my wrongdoers once and for all." – An email I received recently.
Have you ever felt this way? Ever said something like this?
I have.
Even more likely, you’ve thought "I just want more money", "I just want better friends", "I just wanna get laid", etc.
But WHY do you want that stuff?
‘Cause really, deep down, you think it’ll make you happy.
See… people just wanna be happy. They just wanna achieve their dreams. Is that so wrong?
No.
I’ve been focused on that my whole life, and for a while I thought I could "make" people happy with my logic and my words (because let’s admit it, my logic and my words are super-awesome 
)
Believe me.
I’ve tried to MAKE a lot of things happen, and it’s really painful.
A successful life requires more than JUST action, life’s bigger than that.- Life’s bigger than that.
- Life’s more mystical than that.
- Life’s way beyond the right strategy, the right tactics, or the ‘right’ anything.
If you’re not open to that, you might as well stop reading this post. Hell, stop reading ryze, because every human being who’s risen to great heights thanks God.
Every human being who’s risen to great heights has lived for something greater.
And I get people asking how I’m so positive, so I’m gonna tell you.
I have millions of tools to be positive, like really… a lot.
And I’m gonna share an absolutely incredible tool with you one with you, and I want you to understand how valuable it is.
Just because it’s ‘free’ in a ‘blog post’, doesn’t mean skip it.
In fact, it means PAY MORE ATTENTION, because blog posts are treacherous territory where people can be distracted from incredible solutions.
Not you though, you’re way too smart for that, and you know Ryze delivers gold.
Pure gold.
And the tool I’m about to share will open doors for you beyond doors, because it’s a core foundation of success but NO ONE. Absolutely NO ONE on the net teaches it the way I’m about to teach it.
Get ready.
But first, I’m gonna tell you a story about when I was homeless with my girlfriend.
Cold, shivering sleep on a damp grass bed.
It was still morning, but the clouds had already gathered and started to rumble.
Downtown, which was already pretty grey, looked even greyer.
My feet were killing me from weeks of living homeless. I couldn’t walk anymore, and we didn’t even have enough to stay up all night in an internet cafe.
I knew Hailey and I needed a creative solution, but none were really jumping to mind, y’know?
So I did what I and most people do when they get their backs to the wall.
I gave up, let go, and enjoyed the day.
Hailey and I read a book, we shared a McDouble, and we played a game.
Sometimes the people around us aren’t able to see our situations too positively. I needed a break.
I went to one of the nicer bathroom stalls in the Manulife Center, took out a notepad, and started writing.
Homeless, no place to sleep, and a rain-storm on the way, and I chose to write.
The thing is, I’ve probably written more stuff that I appreciate about life — in much darker times — than anyone you know.
I’ve filled up hundreds of notebooks with art and writings and ideas about things I love.
I’ve filled up hundreds of text files with more of the same.
- If someone spends thousands of hours swimming, what do they get good at?
- If someone spends thousands of hours engineering, what do they get good at?
- If someone spends thousands of hours appreciating things, what do they get good at?
Exactly.
So I got good at seeing the best in things, and turning negatives into opportunities.
And a lot of it shines through in my writing and conversation.
Anyway, I didn’t know what the day would bring, I didn’t know where we’d sleep that night, and everything looked shitty, period.
I didn’t have money, I didn’t feel comfortable turning to any family or friends (they hadn’t shown much support for my life choices at the time), I didn’t want to enter the govt. system, and I didn’t want to hear any negativity from my girl.
So I wrote good things, it always helped.
I left the stall and went back to Hailey, and I took us to the libray to trawl Craigslist for opportunities.
And that night I had a brilliant inspiration.
I created a bed out of nothing.
Or almost nothing.
I made it out of our clothes and bags, and slept next to Hailey under a really big tree in Queen’s Park.
And you know what?
After I found a place with no lumps… I slept great.
I mean really, really well.
It was one of the best, most energizing sleeps of my life.
The waking up was a bit rough, heh.
(Did you know that dew will suddenly appear under you during the night? So you wake up in a cold puddle? Yeah, that happened.)
But I also woke up to a client wanting some web design work, enough to get me back on my feet.
If you got your back to the wall, world’s looking bleak, and nothing seems to be working – focus on something positive – life responds to focus. Focus is a vital skill, and writing is a gateway to focus that even a kindergardener could do.
So what’s the story mean?
It means you’re here on earth to experience some crap.
Ha ha.
Oh I know, somewhere in the back of your mind, you probably believe there’s a way to AVOID experiencing sucky things.
Which is why you worry and try to avoid things like homelessness.
To AVOID crap.
Bzzzt. Wrong.
You can’t avoid crap — it’s part of life. Much like birth, growth, and death. You never hear anyone trying to avoid being born, or avoid growing, but you always hear about people trying to avoid crap.
You can’t.
But there is a way to experience ‘crappy’ things in a different way, like I did.
And like all successful people do, in their own way.
They might not write, but they have attitudes, ideas, and ways to feel differently about their experiences.
Read their biographies and you’ll see, at a dark time, they were able to summon something from within and focus on something beautiful.
Successful people appreciate things at all times, they appreciate the sun that rises, the air we breathe.
They have deep desire and powerful beliefs that something will get them through, and they don’t spend their time bitching in e-mails and blog posts.
If you really feel like you need to write something or type it out — there are millions of words to choose from to express yourself. Try some good ones
"I remember bein’ blind to it
’til the day I put my mind to it
Pen and pad on the dress for me to fine tune it
I sat in a corner, made up my mind do it." – Rick Ross, Rich Forever
Successful people focus. They practically all write. They take repsonsiblity for their lives. (I don’t think you could find me an example of successful person who doesn’t do these things.)
They also do what they want, live how they want, and have fun with their lives
These things all go hand in hand.
- You can’t have a ballin’ life if worrying circumstances instantly cripple you.
- You can’t have a ballin’ life if the ‘dark future’ in front of you stops you from breathing or enjoying a walk or playing a game.
- You can’t have a ballin’ life if you abandon your ability to focus and get sucked into your own drama.
Sorry, that’s just how life works.
And it’s okay, ’cause I believe in you, and I believe you’re bigger than any problems and I want to help you.
So I’m gonna give you my number one tool to master life — and it’s ripped off almost completely from Abraham-Hicks, who’s meditations, process, ideas, and speeches I’ve listened to obsessively for the last 7 years.
They’re the inspiration for the movie The Secret and they basically started the law of attraction movement.
Now this stuff is pretty ridiculous to most people – if that’s you, fine keep trying standard strategies + tactics if they work for you.
Either way, I know I’m sharing something super-fucking-valuable and it’ll change your life if you give it an honest, open-minded shot.
It’s either that or wait til your back’s to the wall, like I did.
Ready?
The tool I’m gonna share with you is called an ‘Emotional Grid’
So you’ve tried everything, right? Nothing works, right?
Wrong. You haven’t tried everything, you’ve tried every standard action.I’ve spent a ton of my life trying to make sales or make my business work or make myself succeed.
I’ve tried all the "standard advice".
It doesn’t work.
At all.
But you probably already know that, you’ve tried making stuff happen too.
You want a fresh idea?
Ask yourself this: what’s the most powerful force to change lives? Hint: Jon Morrow knows, Brian Clark knows.
The most powerful thing to change lives is emotion.
So then… have you ever tried managing your own emotion?It’s not hard, but it’s certainly rare.
Abraham-Hicks teaches ‘emotional grids’. They’re simple, and really powerful, and I’m gonna take you step-by-step through one.
And you know what it really is? It’s got a fancy name, but It’s just like, 7-9 words — but not just any words.
It’s positive, emotional words with deep personal meaning.
Let’s say you’ve been struggling with something for a long time (money, health, relationships, homelessness, whatever.)
So you choose words that are powerful direct opposites of all that. Use a thesaurus if you have to.
Tired of struggle? Use words like ease, flow, comfort, etc.
Get the idea?
Cool.
I’ll show you one that I used for homelessness, because I didn’t want to be homeless, I didn’t want to be separated from Hailey, I didn’t want to beg, and I didn’t want to feel like an ass.
Those were important to me, but where to start? What action could you take?
Bascially none — but you can use the power of emotions, which changes lives.
I knew I couldn’t just bitch about what I didn’t want, and I needed to create an emotional grid to rely on, so the first word I started with is "ease", and I put it right in the center.
Then I added "stable" and "comfortable."
Then I added "inviting" and "welcoming."
Then I added "fun" and "affordable."
Then I added "appreciated."
And I finished with "loving."
For most people being homeless would be a dark, painful, scary time – and yes, it had moments of that for me – but most of it was pretty positive.
I felt free, I felt happy, I felt at peace. I’d managed my emotions well.
And not long after I got in the zone, feeling positive and appreciating parts of my life, a solution presented itself.
Out of the blue, a friend I hadn’t talked to in 3 years e-mailed me and said: "J, honestly, I’d like to invite you to live with me.
I’d feel better if you and Hailey came to live with me. I don’t get a lot of company and you’re such a joy to have around, I’d gladly have you stay here."
So Hailey and I moved in with him, and it felt like heaven.
And the more I master my emotions, the more things go my way.
Now, I had to figure this out because I got pushed with my back to the wall. Hopefully no one’s forcing you to be in some horrible situation to learn the power of emotional grids.
You’re blessed, you get to read about it from me, and learn from my dark times.
This.
Is.
Something.
To.
Master.
This isn’t some chump-change thing to try once — this is something to practice. This is something to make habit, and it will change your entire life. It will take you so far towards your dreams and wants, but even better than that, it’ll make the "hard" journey actually enjoyable.
This is close to a magic bullet.
I said "close to", don’t have a fit.
It’s NOT a magic bullet, but it’s very powerful and it’s very rare.
I’m sharing it in public with you, but it’s still rare, because it’s only meant for people who are ready for it. Who get it.
Many people will prefer to read about the beauty of porn or how watching more TV helps you succeed.
It’s easy, it takes no money, barely any time (I did it in a bathroom stall), and it brings insane results.
BUT…
And this is a key point…
It takes focus. Once you’ve established your emotional grid, YOU CAN’T SPEND THE REST OF YOUR DAY WORRYING.
You have to take a breath and focus on that beautiful feeling of ease, or pride, or comfort or whatever you put in your grid.
Do it well. If you do anything in your life well, make it emotional mastery.
Please, I care about you, I want you to succeed, and I want you to learn something ridiculously powerful.
Will everyone who reads this try it? No.
Will everyone who reads this "get it?" No.
But if I’ve touched any of you please use it, and teach it to someone else.
Humanity can use more happy people. It really can. 
So I’d love to hear you guys try it. I know it’s personal, but I’ve shared some pretty personal stuff here — if you can write down some words in your grids in the comments, that’d rock, and help all of us ryze.
It’ll be the most positive comments section on the net 
- Angry
- Appreciated
- Inspired
- Amused
- Enlightened
- Happy
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Very cool, Jason.. I’m going to give this a try…
accepting… peaceful… focused… passionate.. hopeful.. grateful… happy… loving..
not sure how to arrange that, but I’m going to play with that for a while.. i could use any exercise that helps my emotions right now…
great post, as always!
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Thanks so much, Denise. I know it’ll help
Those are some amazing things to focus on, doesn’t it feel different to think ‘em and write ‘em?
Most people get way too emotional, and not in a good way, and in my experience, it’s not possible to hold those words in your mind + vision and actually WANT to feel better … and have your emotions get *worse* lol.
I’d love to hear your results
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Hi Jason, this is my first visit here and I’d just like to say, thanks for sharing this personal experience with us. I totally agree with your conclusion (humanity could use more happy ppl) and what you wrote in the beginning about what you get good at if you do something for thousands of hours, made me think. I tend to focus on what I’m not good at and how people are all better at stuff than I am which I think makes me good at what? Moaning.
Anyways, here are my words for the emotional grid: Peaceful, Giving, Helping, Appreciative, Abundant, Energetic, Simple, Loving, Oneness
Wow, thank you so much Andrea! I really appreciate it.
I was the same way, always focused on the ‘problem’, and I kept getting more problems. And when I focused on ease and fun, I got more of that.
I *love* your words, and they’re really helping everyone else who reads as well
Simple Ease
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Hey Jason,
Nice. I never read about the emotional grid before.
But what if… I am not a believer in the law of attraction? What’d you say to that?
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Well now you have heard of it
I already addressed disbelief in the article:
“Now this stuff is pretty ridiculous to most people – if that’s you, fine keep trying standard strategies + tactics if they work for you.”
So I guess I’d say keep trying your other ways of improving your life and feeling better. What do I know. Good luck
All I know is, I’m a badass and it works for me, I share it with you like no one else will, and if you wanna take like the 5 minutes out of your life TO TRY IT and EXPERIMENT with AN OPEN MIND, great
If you don’t, don’t 
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I don’t know if I got it right,but I don’t think it has much to do with “Law of Attraction”,does it?
I understood it like “programming” yourself to feel that way,focusing on those feelings,eliciating them…. instead of focusing on the shit that’s already happening. Can it be understood that way too?
Another doubt I have: Do we just right it on a paper and leave it there? Or keep reading the paper throughout the day,reminding ourselves that?
Hi, Caio!
You raise a really good point.
Law Of Attraction + Self-Programming are basically the same thing — life is a great mystery and every culture and group has their own language to understand it.
Wiccans will say you need to have a ‘spell’ and focus on a ‘talisman’, astrologers will tell you to ‘see the best in your chart’, buddhists will tell you to ‘release desires’, The Bible will say to praise God for each day and have faith.
All those things are talking about Law Of Attraction, whether they realize it or not.
As for the second, if a person has questions about ‘technique’ it usually means they’re not ready to apply it, and not in tune with themselves and their feelings. If someone IS in tune with themselves and their feelings, they just start experimenting. Period. They try it one day writing it and leaving it there, they try another day reading it throughout. They passionately try this awesome new tactic, instead of over-analyzing it, trying to get it right, or perfecting it.
Anyway, for ME, it was the process of writing it every day, sometimes twice or three times, that had the most powerful effect.
READING is mostly a passive, less-powerful act, and WRITING is an ACTIVE, FOCUSED, POWERFUL way to create. So, if I had to recommend, I’d say write it and move on, but there are people who do well by reading.
It’s more about attitude, feelings, emotions, mood, and mindset. How focused are you when you do it? How unhurried? How passionate? How desperate? Stuff like that makes a big difference, but the physical actions don’t make much of a difference
Does that clear things up?
I enjoyed this post.
I have a question though. I’ve read and listened to some Abraham-Hicks stuff. However, I guess I missed the emotional grid. What I want to know is, how exactly do you use it? Do you make one and print it out? Do you consciously meditate on those words? Do you begin to replace the old language with the antonyms on those grids? LOL bear with me.
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Awesome, Lauryn! Good for you, this stuff changes lives, big time.
You also asked a fantastic question – and I didn’t explain it clearly in the post, it was more of an introduction.
It’s a great step just to make one, but like anything in life, you get out of it what you put into it.
The idea is to lean more towards those words and emotions and ideas, *especially* when life gets tough. It’s all about focus, like everything in life
You can also make more than one grid, for different topics. As for printing them, the more tangible, the better, and what people put on their walls are cubicles are very important…
P.S. You didn’t miss it, Abe’s only recently began teaching it, but it’s the evolution of a couple of earlier processes (“I Want To Feel” and “The Placement Process”).
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Thanks for explaining further.
One of the posts I wrote recently was about developing resilience to overcome life’s BS. I am witnessing firsthand the power of staying resilient and maintaining a level of happiness that’s consistent in spite of the illusive tests in front of us. I sound weird to most people, but I’m starting to understand there’s a crazy war on our mental states these days. Nobody is given the chance to stay still and reflect on what’s going on and allow God to supply our needs. This is the biggest and most important lesson I’m learning right now. And while I’m not in the exact scenario you were in when you were homeless, I can relate to the “Okay, okay, fuck it. What’s next? I have no fucks left to give… and I’m just gong to relax, chill out and enjoy what I can in these dark moments” sentiment. Funnily enough, I haven’t even MADE that grid yet, but I reapplied what you said about managing emotions well in the moment and literally a problem that’s been irritating the hell out of me since I discovered it this morning… has been given an immediate solution. One that I can only relate to positive thinking and God’s power.
Keep it going…
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Fantastic, Lauryn! I love hearing people mastering their emotions and their thoughts.
We have 60,000 thoughts a day, and most people are practically taught and trained to worry and think bullshit.
What results can that possibly bring? lol.
The immense power of emotional mastery is what all the successful people use. That’s what brings real, sustainable, long-term, lasting results, and you’re using it like a boss.
They access internal resources. They access confidence, they access positive spin, they access the best life has to offer, not by scrambling around trying to create successful businesses and relationships, but by going with the flow, trusting themselves more.
Ryze is here to help people TRUST THEMSELVES MORE, and that means… yes, trusting their feelings.
When people interact with me, they can’t help but feel the ryzing vibe. I deliver clear insight and positivity, and they love it.
The thing is, I’ve never met a human being who didn’t have the same internal resources, and you just showed yours
Rock on and ryze up.
P.S. The grids always being made, it’s emotional mastery — I just gave a physical explanation of it.
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I love the power of focus on words. I’ll share:
Vibrant, Couragous, Affluent, Creative, Joyful, Free, Loved, Fun, Giving.
Each day I focus on how I can be more of what each of these mean to me.
It really is a great process and one I’d recommend to anyone, and it fits within any belief system.
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Me too, Jackie
I looove vibrant, affluent, creative, joyful, free, fun, loved
Great words, for sure, and I was right, this comments section is literally becoming the most powerfully positive on the net! Thanks!
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The terrible thing about the Law of Attraction is it got simplified and debased. The underlying philosophy is sound enough, but it’s not something you can teach in a weekend seminar, and you *really* need a mentor to catch the flaws in your thinking, because they *will* occur.
I’m familiar enough with using grids to ‘power’ shifts, but this particular application is new to me. I really like the shift I feel when I focus on my words.
Fruitful
Just Compassion
Ease Abundance Contentment
Compelling Authentic
Deliberate
Thanks for the prodding, Jason
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Fortunately I *AM* just such a mentor, Shanna, and I know others
I *love* the feeling and shift that comes from focusing on words like this.
Fruitful, ease, abundance, content, compelling, authentic, deliberate — some of my favorites. Thanks so much for contributing
Hey Jason,
I’ve heard bits and pieces of your story and I’m sorry you had to go through so much to get to where you are right now. I know, sometimes those are just the lessons we have to learn dang it. But either way I’m sure you are appreciative of the fact that you obviously had to go through some things in order to get to where you are today.
As you probably already know, I’m a very happy person. People ask me all the time why am I so happy and I tell them the same old thing. I’m just happy to be alive and healthy. I’m so blessed that I have family and friends that love and support me and that I have a dog that thinks I’m the best Mom ever. That in itself puts a smile on my face every single day and I don’t complain about what I don’t have. Heck, I can’t really think of something that I really really need right now. I’ve got it all my friend. I’m got it all!
I’m thrilled that you are adding value to other people’s lives that need to get some of what you have to share. If you can help them be happy with themselves then that is the best gift ever. Keep up the inspiring posts Jason, you definitely have a gift!
Rock on my friend.
~Adrienne
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Yeah, I’m sure more of my story will be revealed when the time’s right
It’s pretty epic, lol 
I am *VERY* appreciative of my story and experiences – they’ve given me all kinds of goodness and growth and mastery.
That feeling of being blessed and having it all is precious and powerful, and I know the feeling. It’s so great that the earth keeps spinning, sun keeps ryzing, and nature keeps providing food all over the planet.
That being said, do we ever really “have it all” or is there in fact… “always more in store?”
I helped a couple of the staff in my favorite bakery get a lot more solid and jumpstarted on their entrepreneurial journey, just before writing this! lol
And thank YOU Adrienne, your connected presence all over the blog community is absolutely stunning, and I’m honored you stop by and share the ryze goodness, my friend
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J-Ryze…
There is a lot here so I’m going to keep my thoughts short…
Worry kills like the Gun Blast of Jealous Lover…
Don’t worry… Understand.
Ryan H.
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lol… Nice Ryan, nice
What if I said I’m worried that I don’t understand your comment?
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haha… I’m pretty sure you feel me…
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Hi Jason,
It’s been a while since I read (and re-read) the Secret (and a bunch of other related books), and I have to admit, my thinking has slowly slipped back to its former “glory” (nothing glorious about it)…
Calmness – Presence -Love – Empathy – Faith – Connection
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I totally hear you, Peter. I keep books like Money & The Law Of Attraction, Think And Grow Rich, and Jay-Z’s Decoded with me at all times on my smart phone
I read bits of them very, very regularly and always attract more.
It helps me to share posts like this one
I’m glad to see you focusing and directing your thoughts towards awesomeness like calmenss, presences, love, empathy, faith, and connection.
Those all feel like things I’d love more of myself!
Thanks for spreading the word!
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Jason,
You are a great example of authenticity. I love that. Thank you for sharing your personal story and being authentic!
What most people don’t understand about happiness is that it is NOT a result of your circumstances, but that it IS a result of your choices. You ALWAYS have the power to choose, NO ONE can take that from you EVER!
If you can’t figure out how to be happy in your current circumstances you will NEVER be happy, not a new job, a big house, a fast car, more money, you still won’t be truly happy.
If you can be homeless and happy – WOW – than you FOR SURE have it all figured out! YOU ROCK
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Wow, Steve, that is probably the highest compliment I can imagine — we’re all here on earth to be as authentically “us” as possible, and I’m thrilled to hear that shines through.
Your take on happiness is rock-solid. There’s godbillions of unique circumstances going on all the time, and you can always find people who are able to find happiness in them.
It’s true, I’ve been happy in way darker places than most people dream of (like 7 years of abject failure and mediocrity: http://www.firepolemarketing.com/blog/2011/12/13/8-failed-businesses-in-6-years/ — don’t worry it’s a really inspiring story
I do have *a lot* figured out, but there’s always more, eh? That’s life
But there’s people who’ve done equally cool (some would say moreso) things
I’m reminded of the Concentration Camp survivor who sang and played music during her stay there: http://training.tonyrobbins.com/1608/the-garden-of-eden-and-hell-could-your-problems-be-gifts-my-interview-with-alice-summers-108-year-old-survivor-of-a-nazi-concentration-camp/
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Thanks for those 2 links man, love the video!
On a side note: Your digg digg bar shows up almost off the screen for me – you may want to adjust the offset to bring it in closer. Also what plugin do you use to get the little tweet button next to the tweetable quotes inside your blog post?
Woo… thanks so much for the heads up, Steve! I really appreciate it.
And the plugin is TweetHerder, but I do ‘em manually for guest posts
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Hi Jason,
The more I learn about you through your blog, the more I learn how remarkable you are. You are living proof that people can get out of darkness back into light again.
Onto emotional mastery. I loved the technique you wrote about in your post. When one learns such a tool and how to apply it quickly, life begins to become less stressful because one is taking complete responsibility for how he/she is feeling and knows how to feel resourceful during those moments when needed the most.
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Thanks so much, Hiten — I’ve felt remarkable for a very long time – lol – but, in a way that makes so much sense, no one could know about me or learn about me until I was able to imagine it, focus on it, and express my stories.
My dark times are one of the key reasons I’m so positive now, and they called for sublime emotional mastery
Like most skills in life, if you’re able to apply them masterfully and habitually, the results are huge!
I really love your contributions here, thank you!
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Jason,
Great story and it’s like peeling an onion to understand your story. I have to read 8 failed businesses again. Understanding, knowledgeable, strong, successful, at peace, relaxed, powerful.
Thoughts?
Thanks Tom!
Yeah, I’ve lived a lot of layers and they’re all not out there yet
I keep sharing more though, so stay tuned
It’s interesting, I generally just encourage people’s words, wherever they’re at, but you were badass enough to ask my thoughts and input.
I love your words — understanding feels awesome, so does knowledge. At peace and relaxed, well it’s tough to create anything valuable when we’re not
Powerful is one of my faves. I love feeling personally powerful, captain of my own ship kinda deal.
Strong + successful are interesting because successful is a very subjective, personal definition – but I definitely love the feeling and teach it. Strong goes hand in hand with powerful, but can get dicey when we talk about “asking for help”, “crying”, and “being vulnerable”
Are those things strong + powerful, or not?
Great comment, Tom!
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“And the more I master my emotions, the more things go my way”, “YOU CAN’T SPEND THE REST OF YOUR DAY WORRYING”
That’s the most powerful part. I can fully identify with the pain of worry, in fact there was a time when worry was my middle name. I’m going to tale that away and remember.
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Rock on, Mike! You’ve definitely highlighted a powerful part.
Worry can sabotage any and all results and actions.
Some action you think you’re taking normally? Bam, screwed up if you’re worried.
When I leave a comment, they’re almost always insightful and valuable and filled with fresh wisdom — but if I’m worried, they’ll barely even be noticed
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Jason – it sounds like you have a really interesting story. Thanks for sharing some of it. Have you ever read the story of the Taoist farmer? There are various tellings of it here, but I really like the message, and I think it relates to your post. http://www.noogenesis.com/pineapple/Taoist_Farmer.html
I DO have a really interesting story. It’s way longer and deeper than most people know, so thanks for noticing
As for the Taoist Farmer… I had not read it, Sarah, and I’m so glad you shared it
“This is a blessing.” 
Very cool, thank you.
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Hi Jason,
This is my first visit to your blog and am glad I stumbled to it through Melody’s blog. You always leave such insightful comments there and I was curious to see what you are all about. Your story made my eyes wet, I can’t even imagine how those dark times were for you and your girlfriend. Thank you so much for sharing it so honestly and with such openness. You do bleed when you write,eh? The emotional grid you have mentioned is pretty cool. Emotionalized thoughts are like gears that steer our lives. And it’s best for when there are productive thoughts. I wonder how the whole the whole grid process starts, develops and if it has an end… Am off to explore your other writings
Veeh
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And I’m so glad you’re here too, Veeh! (Cool name!)
Insightful comments are kinda my thing, digital wise-man, y’know
I’ve written a lot in my life, millions and millions of words, and I was all but ignored until I started “bleeding” in my writing.
They say “do what works”, and so… here I am.
Thanks so much for noticing
As for emotion — I don’t think I’ve seen one creative thing that moved people that wasn’t juiced with powerful emotion. Seems pretty neverending [grin].
Thanks again, rock on and ryze up, Veeh!
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Wow Jason.
I love the new grid analogy (I’m a fellow Abrahamoholic, as you well know…) and how you illustrated it. Especially your very personal example of how you turned it around. Very powerful.
The technique you mentioned – taking the feeling you don’t want and finding it’s opposite, is SO incredible. This is also how to make the most powerful affirmations (the ones that actually work). I do this all the time and yes, it really does work. I haven’t been homeless (I’ve been close, and I didn’t really understand this stuff at the time), but I’ve pulled myself out of suffering on many occasions by simply having the courage to focus on what I did want instead of the crapola I was in. I say courage, because just making that switch can be scary as hell. What if it doesn’t work? What if by “ignoring” the misery, it just gets bigger? Those are some powerful fears…
The beauty, of course, is that once you’ve done this once or twice, you realize just how powerful this technique is, and how powerful we are.
Thank you so much for sharing your story Jason. With it, you give people permission to feel better, even if their “reality” doesn’t warrant it.
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Super happy shiny puppy hugs!
Melody
Ahhhh, great to have someone like yourself adding to the explanation, Mel. I know you’re good at this stuff
And yep, the funny thing is — I’d tried everything. Really. I tried *everything*. The curse of intelligence was that I thought I could always ‘manufacture’ a solution, through action, but what I really needed was trust, following my feelings, and the mystery of life to take me forward.
It was scary. I shed tears. I fought it, but in the end… you just admit it and face your own ‘death’.
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Man, Abe Hicks is (are) certainly my favorites! There is not a query they can’t answer and, with LOA, there is not anything one can’t do if they align with it. I’ve been through some tough shit myself, but always saw everything in a positive light, as a learning experience because only through doing do we actually learn anything. That’s what the masters say. Now, conventional society claims that this way if thinking is BS and fuff. That mentality has never vibed with me, though and I think that’s BS. I think they are wrong.
Abe as a colkective says that first we must be happy and then things come to us. First we set up our grid and then work on our shit. That is so right, because when you are depressed, it’s all the more harder to get anywhere from there. Whistling a happy tune wherever you are is a good starting place to get you where you want to go, as you have shown us with this wonderful story. You felt awesome in Queens park (do you live in queens, NY?) and from there, feeling good about where you were at the time, you were invited by a friend you had not heard from in years to stay over! That is LOA at its best! But you felt great and wanted ease. You were not in a placed where you said “oh, how did I fuck up so badly, I ended up homeless?”. Not the way to go about it, for sure. So, we can do ourselves a favor and be freaking happy just for being here in this freaking physical plane and from this point of appreciation, we’ll get to where we want to go. That is the roadmap.
This is great review for me! It’s goid to go over this stuff with people who understand and don’t think it’s BS. As for me, I’d like health, ease, flow, wellness, abundance, comfort, vibrancy, liveliness. Screw what is, I am focusing on my imaginative state on how I want things to be. That’s the whole point!
Yeah, I’m a huge fan of them and their work as well. True wisdom for the west there
There are tons of people who get this stuff.
From ancients like Jesus + Buddha, to new like Eckhart + Abe, to trendy like Tony Robbins + Oprah.
Read any of their stuff and find people who ‘get it’. These are people that the stars look to for help. These are the people who mentor stressed CEOs.
Oh, and you can always follow me, I feel I get it enough to help out, donchaknow
I’ve been homeless 3 times, and each time I had less panic and more peace. The first was pretty intense, the second as well, in a different way, but if anyone were to check — overall I was happy and fun to be around
Thanks so much, Kat, keep rockin!
P.S. I live in Toronto, Canada, and rep it hard.
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