Embrace your softer side.

Choose something from the left & really embody ’em. Live ’em every chance you get. Make ’em a magical part of what others feel from you.

Rock your harder side.

Choose something from the right. Experiment with it or master it, but either way, believe you can live these great qualities in your life.

And even if you’re not interested in a certain trait, realize they all matter. They’re important. They help you reach your goals, so appreciate ’em either in yourself or someone else.

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My 5’oclock shadow was soaked in tears.

But hey, anyone’d cry watching The Notebook. It’s a super-touching movie, right?

Yeah, I guess.

Truth is, I would’ve cried watching Community.

I cry more often than is ‘normal’ for a guy. This week I bawled while reading a Harry Dresden noir-mystery, and teared-up staring at the heart-racingly beautiful ex-pornstar, Bree Olson.

Not. Normal.

Some people would say it makes me ‘girly’, but to me, decisively owning this side of me is pretty badass. I love myself & enjoy it this way. Being open to all life’s emotions makes me a more passionate, sensitive, creative dude, all things I love about myself.

Many of world’s great legends have all wept.

They’ve shown emotion. They’re passionate, and so am I. 🙂

But I wasn’t always like this.

Some people numb themselves to hide from feelings… I know I did.

For decades I believed ‘guys don’t cry’ and ‘logic beats emotion.’ I became cold, arrogant, and repressed.

But that just wasn’t me. I love humanity. I care about people. I’m usually warm & welcoming but can switch to cold when I feel disharmony. That’s all me, but all that stuff went away, when I shoved certain traits of myself in a box ’cause they were ‘too feminine.’

Now I consider myself an authoritative alpha-dude, but one who listens to and expresses his feelings, back then I was a guy who was obstinate, conceited, and dogmatic.

And I attracted girls who meek, wishy-washy, and indecisive.

I wonder… might they have put traits like confidence and decisiveness in a box called ‘too masculine?’

The more I thought about it, the more the boxes were obvious to me. In every culture there’s traits that, on some level, are understood as more feminine or more masculine.

This stuff’s our primal, emotional DNA.

And we have access to all of it, no one says you have to be 100% one side or the other. People are complex, capable of being anything at any moment, including both masculine and feminine.

And it’s not about being a man or woman or trans or neutral. It’s not about lesbian, gay, or cis.

It’s about being whatever’s inspired.

From Jesus to Jay-Z, Cleopatra to Beyonce…

…I studied.

I read Deida and Osho, examined legends like Donald Trump and Eminem. I contrasted Marilyn Monroe and Ellen.

Looking at these accomplished people who embraced their traits, it was easy to that I could choose any quality I wanted, be whatever I wanted, any time I wanted.

I learned some qualities are ‘better’ at certain times & situations for me.

I learned that though I lean noticeably towards ‘masculine’ qualities, I’m sensitive with a huge heart, and I like it that way. I also love variety and the ability to choose any trait I feel life calls for.

It’s just my preference.

If you’re like me, then no one taught you anything about this stuff. Maybe your life could be better, especially in relationships (business or personal). Maybe I can pass on my experience and what I learned.

I wanna help, so here goes.

I’m sharing my top 24 traits they don’t really teach you about ‘em in school. You could be missing out on some that’ll create amazing results in your life, just ’cause you’ve never tried ‘em out.

Tune in to your personal qualities.

This very moment, can you feel how developed your ‘depth’ is? Or how ‘radiant’ you are?

Some people have never even seen those words.

Others get it, though. They’re aware of what qualities they currently bring to the table.

It’s possible to feel if we’ve developed certain traits well or not-so-well.

This stuff matters, and for me, it was scary to admit it.

But so worth it.

Give yourself permission.

Let yourself try the traits below & feel yourself #ryze.



Scroll for feminine traits, starting with ‘Surrender’, or click to jump right to masculine traits.
I wanna skip the femme ones, take me to masculine!



Acquiescence, Submission, Yielding, Allowing.

Surrender Story-Bite:

Anita stopped banging her head against the wall. Instead of doing what was ‘normal’, she surrendered to her feelings, her calling, her moment… and that was her career’s turning point.

“Surrender to what is. Say ‘yes’ to life.” – Eckhart Tolle

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
How I Learned to Stop Procrastinating, & Love Letting Go
– ZenHabits –



Responsiveness, Acceptance, Understanding.

Receptivity Story-Bite:

Ella’s posture collapsed, she shutdown.

A life full of over-giving had left her useless and empty, but salvation was at hand if she’d drop her pride, open her heart, and receive.

“Receptivity means dropping the garbage that you go on carrying in your head.” – Osho

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
The Art Of Receiving
– TinyBuddha –


Related To Empathy:

Affinity, Compassion, Rapport, Warmth.

Empathy Story-Bite:

Izzie was never seen as ‘smart’, but she could feel the alienation &l; isolation of her genius husband as if it were her own.

That’s why she stuck a love note inside his research, to soothe his pain… which soothed hers.

“The great gift of human beings is that we have the power of empathy.” – Meryl Streep

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
Why We Need Empathy
– StartEmpathy –


Related To Radiance:

Glow, Light, Shine, Brilliance.

Radiance Story-Bite:

She made whatever she wore enticing. The room lit up when she walked in. She smiled, and the world sighed in bliss. She laughed, and the world laughed with her. She wept, and the world would instantly comforted her.

Every emotion Vanessa had was radiant.

“Be still and let life happen – that stillness becomes a radiance.” – Morgan Freeman

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
Inspiring Radiance In Women
– ElephantJournal –



Dance, Gush, Cascade.

Flow Story-Bite:

Others criticized Iman for ‘falling’ from her hobbies into a career, without ‘controlling’ her destiny.

She knew the truth though: she just loved life & experiences, and was happy to enjoy them all by going with the flow.

“You should allow life to unfold as naturally as possible. Just go with the flow.” – Shania Twain

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
Flow: The Secret To Happiness
– TED –



Physicality, Eroticism, Pleasure, Enjoyment, Indulgence.

Sensuality Story-Bite:

Everything about her appealed to the senses.

Her golden hair glinted and a light seemed to come from her when she smiled. Wisps of cloudcloth accented her flawless curves. I inhaled sharply when she touched me. I could taste her deep rich wine. She was haunting like a siren and her voice…

“Nothing can cure the soul but the senses.” – Oscar Wilde

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
3 Tips To Become A Sensual Woman
– YourTango –



Feed, Sustain, Nourish, Care, Raise.

Nurturing Story-Bite:

It wasn’t choosing between a job and a kid for Ayumi.

It was more than that. It was dedication to the care and elevation of another human life —a soul— who may one day grow up to lead an even bigger empire. What career could have a greater impact?

“Find out what your gift is and nurture it.” – Katy Perry

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
A Woman’s Biological Need To Nurture—And How To Satisfy It When You’re Not A Mom
– PsychologyToday –



Desire, Devotion, Intimacy, Kindness.

Affection Story-Bite:

She felt her affection bubbling over and lost herself in him.

Krystyna stayed with Rob for a long time after they were done. Her back to his chest, her body snuggling closer, tighter, like she couldn’t get quite close enough.

“I was born with an enormous need for affection, & a terrible need to give it.” – Audrey Hepburn

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
Are You Showing Enough Affection?
– Women’s Health Mag –



Participate, Split, Co-Create, Experience.

Sharing Story-Bite:

Wretchedly hungry, Kayleigh bought 3 croissants from Sobey’s with her last dollar, and brought them back to her friends in the park.

Kay’s friends didn’t know it, but for her, at this particular meal, sharing was more important than being full.

“In the sweetness of friendship let there be laughter, and sharing of pleasures.” – Khalil Gibran

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
10 Reasons To Feel & Share Pain
– TheFeminineWoman –



Gentleness, Compassion, Benevolence.

Tenderness Story-Bite:

Her stress-level was off the charts, and for most people, that’d put a stop to any tenderness, but Ayesha’s natural tendencies couldn’t be halted.

She went down to the animal shelter to lend her tender touch to creatures that needed it.

“The most important things are tenderness and kindness. I can’t do without them.” – Brigitte Bardot

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
I Love Being A Woman
– RebelleSociety –



Composure, Poise, Endurance, Capacity.

Patience Story-Bite:

While her husband thrashed and raged at every rejection of his manuscript, Britta in contrast, was able to be grateful for her chances to audition for dance.

She enjoyed her life and patiently waited to hear back.

“Patience is not simply the ability to wait – it’s how we behave while we’re waiting.” – Joyce Meyer

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
Patience, The Art Of Intelligent Waiting
– Care2 –


Related To Loving:

Adoring, Attentive, Sincere, Appreciative, Connected.

Loving Story-Bite:

Gina hugged her sister and said, “When I say ‘I love you’, it means I’m offering my peace and happiness. And to do that, I’ve gotta be able to love myself.”

“Aw that’s beautiful. Thanks sis, I love you too.”

“Where there is love there is life.” – Mahatma Gandhi

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
How To Be A Kinder, More Loving Person
– MindBodyGreen –

Whew! Still with me? Great, let’s look at masculine traits 🙂


Scroll for masculine traits, starting with ‘Freedom’, or click to jump above to feminine traits.
Or click to jump to the feminine traits.



Liberty, Flexibility, Autonomy, Power, Privilege.

Freedom Story-Bite:

Everyone looking just saw a failure, but Jay chose the only path that helped him feel free, his own man to live and die as he pleased.

He had no job, no shelter, no belongings, no family, and no friends… but free, and who knows what tomorrow would bring.

“The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are.” – Jim Morrison

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
How To Be A Free Man
– BoldAndDetermined –



Guidance, Leadership, Aim, Purpose.

Direction Story-Bite:

When Terry was young he had no direction, doing what he thought society wanted, or what made him look good.

At his lowest he found a simple purpose, To Feel Better, and Do What He Loved.

Since then his direction’s been clearer and clearer, now people followed him.

“There is a difference between giving directions and giving direction.” – Simon Sinek

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
4 Lessons On How To Find The Right Direction In Life
– TinyBuddha –



Reason, Rationale, Order, Sense.

Logical Story-Bite:

After one of his shows, comedian Bill was confronted by people saying “Hey Bill, we’re Christians and we don’t like what you were saying–”

A quick jump in logic helped him reply: “So… Forgive me!”

“Logic is the beginning of wisdom.” – Leonard Nimoy

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
How To Think Logically
– WikiHow –



Focus, Target, Concentrate.

Focus Story-Bite:

Brendon wanted to invest in his love of video games, by buying equity in a small gaming company with passionate, but possibly fans. Everyone warned him not to, all they could see was the risk.

Brendon focused on the opportunity he saw, and used his controlling interest in Thrash Games, to serve hungry fans efficiently and profitably, becoming the world’s biggest gaming CEO.

“My focus is my art, and that’s what I love to do.” – Beyonce Knowles

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
12 Ways To Be More Focused & Get More Things Done Quickly
– LifeHack –



Principle, Purity, Virtue, Honor.

Integrity Story-Bite:

It seemed to make no sense. Why would Mustafa walk away from his business partner and a huge client?

Well, the clueless client disrespected his advice, and Mustafa’s partner, desperate for cash, took the client’s side. Someone had to stand up for what was right. Someone had to have integrity.

“A building has integrity just like a man.” – Ayn Rand

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
7 Things That Happen To You When You’re Complete Honest
– James Altucher –



Balance, Security, Cohesion, Foundation.

Stability Story-Bite:

Early in life, all Frank’s experiments failed miserably, because with no financially stability, every one was a big risk.

Now that he had a stable cashflow and was living within his means, he was able to take reasonable risks, test, and grow.

Stability felt divine.

“Valor is stability, not of legs and arms, but of courage and the soul.” – Michel de Montaigne

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
How To Be Emotionally Stable Without Being Bored
– ThoughtCatalog –



Fervor, Intensity, Zeal, Joy, Energy.

Passion Story-Bite:

Dante loved being a teacher. He loved it with a white-hot, firey, never-ending supernova of passion. He immersed himself in anything that would improve his students. He followed his passion everywhere, learning art, design, music, writing, storytelling, technology, culture and more, with the full understanding he’d teach the knowledge to others.

“Passion is energy.” – Oprah Winfrey

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
The Short But Powerful Guide To Finding Your Passion
– ZenHabits –



Sovreignty, Ability, Self-Made, Self-Reliant, Self-Sufficient.

Independence Story-Bite:

The irony was, Sam only achieved his self-made independence when he gave up and surrendered all efforts, embracing an eternity of busking for survival, if that’s what it took.

Now he played mega-venues and commanded stadium crowds.

“The beauty of independence, departure, actions that rely on themselves.” – Walt Whitman

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
10 Steps To Become Independent
– WrongPlanet –



Control, Restraint, Practice, Will.

Discipline Story-Bite:

Through the pounding hail, the abusive drill sergeant, and his soaking wet boots, Adam kept a zen-like discipline and self-control. He practiced and responded well no matter what.

That’s why he knew he’d make Warrant Officer before his sergeant.

“With self-discipline most anything is possible.” – Theodore Roosevelt

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
5 Proven Methods For Gaining Self-Discipline
– Forbes –



Certainty, Poise, Spirit, Tenacity, Assurance.

Confidence Story-Bite:

Hopeton’s future was unclear. Would his music studio thrive? Album go platinum?

It didn’t really matter ’cause Hopeton had confidence. He faced the uncertainty with optimism and belief that all would be solved.

And with that attitude, things had always ‘clicked’ for him.

“Confidence is contagious. So is lack of confidence.” – Vince Lombardi

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
8 Scientifically Backed Ways To Feel More Confident
– Huffington Post –



Appreciation, Attention, Alertness, Consciousness, Perception, Understanding.

Awareness Story-Bite:

Scott loved understanding.

Situations, people, concepts, principles, he sought to understand all of it, which meant not only being aware of as much as possible, but holding a higher, broader perspective on life.

In a mostly unaware world this gave him a huge advantage.

“Let us not look back in anger, nor forward in fear, but around in awareness.” – James Thurber

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
Coaching To Develop Self-Awareness
– MindTools –



Fortitude, Health, Power, Vigor, Vitality, Toughness, Resilience.

Strength Story-Bite:

Nick was born without arms or legs, now he speaks to crowds all over the world with his model-wife and new-born child.

He uses phones, goes swimming, and plays basketball.

Nick’s a living testament to strength.

“All the adversity I’ve had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me.” – Walt Disney

Wanna Learn More? Check Out This Link:
How To Feel Mentally And Physically Stronger In 5 Minutes
– SelfGrowth –


12 feminine and masculine traits that matter.


And you matter. A lot.

Who you are as a person, inside, creates & elevates your life outside. If you want a more fulfilling life, you need to be more fulfilling qualities.

I put this page together to help you get free & clear to create your own personal blend of qualities that suit you. And to even let them change as life goes.

And it’s not even all of ’em. I haven’t touched on clarity, intuition, etc., lol.

And hey, this stuff can also help you get the relationships you want, ’cause if there’s a trait you’re interested in attracting you need to a) appreciate it b) acknowledge that you have it somewhere inside you already, and c) be a match to it.

Like attracts like.

So can you get real and raw with yourself?

You gotta look at yourself and see what suits you.

For many it’s scary to say “I enjoy surrender. I’d love to surrender more often (in safe environments).”

For others it’s scary to say “I enjoy freedom. I do what I want when I want, consequences or not.”

Like many scary things, if you can psyche yourself up by imagining the new, improved, better version of you, and start taking the steps — the rewards are great.

Don’t wait or hesitate.

Open up your inbox right now and send yourself an email that says:

“I choose to be more (x).” – where (x) is a trait you like.


That wraps it up for now, I’m Jason “J-Ryze” Fonceca, click here if you wanna know more about me.

Thanks for reading my story, exploring deeper qualities of life, and sharing my experiences with masculine & feminine traits.

“Of course once you are enlightened, you have gone beyond the discrimination of sexes. Beyond enlightenment, you are simply human beings. But before that…. Be proud of your qualities. Increase them, refine them because they are the path towards godliness. Man is not in a better position than woman as far as religious experience is concerned.” – Osho


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Special thanks to David Deida, Osho, and Renee Wade, who’s works massively inspired and informed me.


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