Aight, listen up.
There’s all kinds of exercises things out there to help you find your life purpose, but there’s a catch — your life purpose is something that comes from INSIDE you.
So it doesn’t make much sense to expect some EXTERNAL thing to hook you up.
I know this, and I kept it in mind when I created the Fun & Pretty Life-Purpose Exercise.
Let’s dig in.
In our history, tribal leaders would help the youth find their purpose.
In our current, fast-moving society, we still have leaders helping us with this, it’s just that most people don’t realize it.
Well, now I’m throwing my hat into the ring.
It’s a very good sign that you’re on a great path, simply because you’re reading this article.
Think about it, most people stay away from articles like this. What percentage of people will read something clearly aimed at giving them purpose?
Deep down, they know they should read stuff like this, but they often skip it — you didn’t — so congratulations! Good for you. Keep reading for an easy and fun way to find what you love (with pretty pictures!)
What does it feel like to know what you love to do? What does it feel like to really know it. It feels certain, it feels confident, it feels solid. It lifts away confusion, fog and fear and allows your life to flow much smoother.
Like many of the world’s successful, not only do you feel the awesome power of doing what you love, but you easily figure out ways to get paid for it.
You may be wondering… "Why is it so hard to find what you love?"
Answer: It’s NOT.
It’s really not hard at all.
It’s easy, it’s very, very easy. Not everyone tells you this, and you’ve probably heard everyone say how hard it is, but they’re flat-out wrong.
Every human being is born with the tools to discover their purpose, at any moment.
Focus, feelings, and questions.Most people’ve never really sat down (no-distractions), asked themselves the right questions, & engaged their feelings.
So why haven’t people done this, when they say they want to know?
Because, to be honest, they’d have to make some changes.
They’d have to turn off all the outside noise, and spend some time with themselves.
They’d have to stop the gaming, the watching, the texting, the surfing, etc.
They’d have to manage their thoughts and emotions.
You don’t need to "travel the world", you don’t need to "try different things" (although that can help — experimenting is a kind of… guaranteed way figure it out, and it works.)
The Ryze method is inspired by a combination of valuable exercises by these guys: Jonathan Mead, Brian Kim, Tad Hargrave and Steve Pavlina. They’re brilliant and each focus on their own specific styles.
"It’s something that, at the end of the day, makes you feel like you’ve made a difference." – Jonathan Mead, Reclaim Your Dreams.
"Your deepest wound is your truest niche." – Tad Hargrave, Your Deepest Wound Is Your Niche.
"Your brain has absorbed all sorts of information and experiences and it has the answer ready to be unraveled. ." – Brian Kim, BrianKim.net
"If you want to discover your true purpose in life, you must first empty your mind of all the false purposes you’ve been taught" – Steve Pavlina, How To Discover Your Life Purpose In About 20 Minutes
I’ve taken what I’ve learned from these leaders, and refined it into 3 steps.
Step 1: List your qualities
Foundation: It’s FUN to list things you like, have, or are good at!
If I asked you right now, "what are you good at, what do you bring to the table?" would you be able to answer smoothly and confidently?
When people ask me, I can tell them things like: "I’m a positive badass", "I’m a rockstar urban buddha", and "I’m the Next-Step guy."
This because I’ve poured significant energy into uncovering what really fulfills me.
If you do, does it feel like you’ll succeed in way bigger ways, with a purpose your proud of and a message to stand for?
Well, if you keep an open mind, and have a bit of discipline to focus… I’m going to help you do it.
This exercise’ll help you get clear on your unique value, allow you to sound more charming and smooth when people ask about your skills, and is a key first step to finding your purpose.
Grab a piece of paper, divide it into 3 columns, and write down any strengths you have in these three areas: physical strengths, mental strengths, and spiritual strengths. Doing this will give you a very clear snapshot of what unique things you offer the world.
For now, here’s an example which we’ll be using for the following steps.
Step 2: Find your common thread
Like a word-search, crossword, or a game of Guess Who? – finding the common threads is FUN TOO!
The beauty of life is that it gives us each a very unique blend, and when people understand theirs properly, nailing it just right, the whole world listens.
Eccentric, Catholic-raised, burlesque-dancer Lady Gaga has a very unique blend of traits, that many people would’ve dismissed at first. So does tech-star and social king, Mark Zuckerberg. So does childhood cocaine-dealer turned hip-hop mogul, Jay-Z.
Many of them couldn’t catch a break until they embraced their real talents. Who would’ve thought these people’s unique stories and skills would turn into their life’s work?
You and I have our own unique blends as well, waiting to propel us to our own personal success, the trick is to find the common thread in them all.
For Gaga the common thread is ‘art-freak’: a unique blend of music, art, sex, and celebrity. For Poppycock it’s theatrical, operatic dandy. For Jay-Z it’s hip-hop mogul and trendsetter.
These things all seem normal to us now, but when these people were finding their purpose, it was scary, and anything but normal. They had to find a common thread that allowed them to explore their passions, no matter what they were.
Look for patterns and trends that unite and blend your ‘mish-mash’ of qualities. Life gives them to us for a reason, nothing is wasted.
By looking at our example list, I was able to find many qualities that related to teaching, many qualities that related to comedy/performing, and many that related to computers/the ‘net.
There were a few that reigned supreme but were super-general like "love" and a few that were pretty specific like "obsessed with cars and girls".
That’s fine. You want to narrow it down as much as you can to about 3 patterns, but leaving out a couple tricky one’s is fine.
In fact, in this case, I used the very unique, ‘obsessed with cars and girls’ trait to really guide the entire vision, centering it on a Men’s Magazine.
Talk about writing about what you love
The guy who had all these qualities would probably feel very confident publishing an online magazine. He has most of the tools, he has strengths in all the right areas, and it allows him to express about his ‘obsessions’ all at once.
Step 3: Polish it
Finally, have some fun refining your purpose into something sexy.
So you’ve (1) listed your qualities and gotten clear on your unique value-blend.
You’ve (2) found the common thread and you can tell what you’re meant to do and who you’re meant to help.
The last step is to (3) polish it, tighten it up.
You want to craft a mission statement and refine it into an a pitch.
(Note: pitches are just a way of communicating a lot of clear things about you and your art, in a very short time. It’s a sentence that summarizes your purpose in an appealing way. Finishing this step is really what gives you the confidence needed to live life on your own terms.)
When someone asks "what do you do?" most people stutter and mumble. "Oh, well, uh…I help people with my cooking, and my computers, and my music, and um… I’m really smart."
I want better for you.
You can rock it with a polished answer. One that has impact. One that gets people wanting to know more about you instead of bypassing you as ‘noise.’
You can respond "I’m DJ Food and I help caterers and concerts unite, through technology." – The polished version is punchy, effective, and peaks people`s interest.
The polished version = confidence for you, the unpolished version = awkward conversation, unclear communication and people skipping what you offer.
In our above example, I polished "I run an interactive online men’s mag from my apartment" into 3 separate, powerful pitches. You can do the same for your skills and offers.
You can even ask a friend how they might polish it and make it sexier, for an outside perspective.
You can ask yourself "How can I communicate this in a concise, impactful way?" and then write any answers that come.
Put the distractions, the "looking for external solutions", and the waiting for answers to fall in your lap like magic… aside.
Follow the 3 steps above, and share your creative pitches with the community here! For everyone who posts a pitch below, I`ll personally give feedback and aim to make it sexier and more successful.
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