Lemme hit cha with some powerful emotions:
I felt all these things as I failed business after business, for a total of eight.
"What kind of life is this? How did I end up here?" I wondered as I sobbed like a baby one dark, empty night.
So manly and badass… I know, right?
Well, being willing to feel deep, intense emotion is something that sets the badasses aside from most people, and I’ve certainly done that.
The lows though, can lead to the highs, and to quote the oh-so-famous Kanye West… "N-n-now that don’t kill me / Can only make me stronger."
Basically, I rose up. I did what I wanted. I asked no permission. I claimed my own value.
And the failure becomes the success; the student becomes the master.
You’re A Born MasterEver notice how kids seem kinda… well… pro at life?
We’re born knowing how to shrug off worry and irritation. We’re born knowing how to live in the moment and milk joy out of life. We’re born knowing how to trust humanity, the world, and our own power as we’re cared for and provided for by others.
And then we start forgetting, and letting a bunch of vaguely miserable members of society train us to their ways of living (worrying FTW!)
And so, even though we were born with unconscious mastery of life’s principles, we start settling for a sort of ‘learned mediocrity’ and we become semi-confused students, hungrily seeking answers and struggling to better ourselves.
Suddenly, You’re A Student
Ah, to be a student.
So, my early years of failure, I felt lost, as so many of us do.
As a ‘student’… I dicked around in retail jobs.
As a student I spent my days surfing the web, reading about sex, money, and fame.
I bought and borrowed books, which I sped-read.
I had tons of relationships and flirting and sex, which ended up as 8 failed LTRs.
And I lived hand-to-mouh for 8 years, because I wasn’t delivering significant, noticeable value to the marketplace.
Sounds kinda lame, right?
‘Being a student.’
To some people it does.
Maybe for you Does it bring up images of awkward high school learning?
Well, it’s not lame. The world’s professionals are so great because they’re life-long learners, and they know it.
Being a student just means you’re in a phase where you’re diving into knowledge, seeking answers, and absorbing lots of data.The trick is to be a student at the most effective times.
What hurts though, is remaining in the student phase for too long.
There are people who stay as students ‘too long’, and then wonder why they’re not making money, making an impact, and contributing to the world.
They spend all their time reading ebooks, learning lessons, and absorbing things from everywhere.
Most don’t even realize they’re doing it, and neither do the people around them.
(Sidenote: Most people in a student-phase tend to judge each other, and because of that judging, they’re not ready to contribute openly and teach others.)
An example of a student-phase going on ‘too long’ is when I spent most of my early years studying 30,000 hours studying success and the world’s achieves, immersing myself in 10 terabytes of pop culture, and becoming highly praciced at nearly 20 different art forms (but I didn’t share it with many).
So yeah. I did that, and it’s pretty awesome… but it brought my life to a crashing halt, ’cause not enough moments of my life were spent teaching + contributing well.
So basically you could call it "too much student-phase", because if I’d started teaching + contributing more I could’ve had a successful business earlier, (but I wouldn’t have those record-setting numbers to throw around.)
I’m cool with it though, because you can never really have ‘too much’ student phase. It’s a life long thing, and pushing myself to the edge helped me learn how to balance the teaching part, when I…
Move On To Be A Teacher
Here’s something to think about: anyone society respects, attracts rewards and support.
It’s true.And society respects teachers, so when you really start to be one, rewards rush in a lot more.
Even while I was a student, I was transitioning to a teaching phase, and in fact, I realized I was teaching my whole life.
I was declared a genius, put in the gifted program, and I always loved giving advice to anyone who’d listen.
I wasn’t great at it, delivering it with an agenda, or seeing myself as better than others, but I did it anyway.
I blogged for 7 years, receiving a total of ~300 comments, half of which were mine.
Still, I was purposefully doing my best to contribute. I’d quit my job. I focused on turning my passions into sustainable profit.
I created tons of artwork and writing. I more than one book that almost no one read.
All I knew was, I was sick of sitting around ‘learning’ and I really, really wanted to help others, (and especially to be paid and rewarded for it.)
This got me a little further in life, and I even ended up living on Toronto’s High Street (Bay St.)
It didn’t last though, and I wasn’t what you’d call a ‘master’ at it.
Students don’t really get a ton of praise and thank you’s from the marketplace, because they’re mostly "taking in" info, not "contributing" and creating awesomeness to share.
Teachers help many, and everyone knows it. Humanity has taught each other since the dawn of time; teaching is natural.
The thing is, to be a teacher (or an ‘expert’), you have to start admitting you can take a break from learning, "you’re ahead of some people", and then find out who those people are, and teach ‘em.
And when people start calling themselves a ‘teacher,’ there’s usually a bit of hesitation, as they let go of the idea that they’re a ‘student who can’t really help’, to claim that they’re a ‘teacher equipped to share knowledge’.To switch from student to teacher, nothing’s really changed, physically, it’s just an attitude switch.
And in attitude and beliefs… teacher’s aren’t quite ‘masters’ because they’re very conscious of their subject and ‘how much’ they know.
As well, teachers know that there’s no point in completely ditching the ‘student’ aspect, because it keeps them at the top of their game.
After auite some time practicing as a teacher of a certain subject, we start to handle it through habit.
We start to ‘live’ our area of expertise.
Our subconcious and our nervous system just automatically help us better others around us, in our area of expertise.
Eminem can’t help but express his deepest feelings through rhyme. Danny Iny can’t help but elevate the SMB owners around him. I can’t help but enlighten people about timeless wisdom they’re not accessing, but could be.
(Sidenote: most people in a teacher-phase are happy to share knowledge, but don’t really want others to surpass them. They want to make people better, to a point or a limit.)
Finally, You’re A Master
Ah yes… to be a master.
Master’s don’t really consider what they’re doing… ‘teaching’. They see it as them living their life purpose.
They see it as living and breathing their subject.
I’d really never call myself a ‘master’, but I’ve had others call me it.
Actually, I’ve been called many things.
‘Master’, ‘messiah’, ‘saint.’
Those are some pretty big labels to throw around, but the people who do it mean really well.
What they’re really trying to say is "wow, I’m impressed with your growth, practice and genius on topic X."
Sometimes I transform my clients lives so much, so quickly, it can seem miraculous.
I have some of the most glowing, evangelical fan testimonials I’ve seen. (I’m not kidding, read them and see.)
Anyway, when people call me stuff like this, I correct them and steer them in a different direction.
If people start putting me on a pedestal just because I’ve learned, practiced, and made lots of progress, they’re making it hard for anyone else to reach my level of accomplishment.
And that’s bullshit.
I haven’t done anything special, and everyone can do what I can, and there’s other topics I’m not as great at, just like every one of us.
At the end of the day…
It DOES feel super-great to have significant progress, success and ‘mastery’ on a topic like ‘sexy-success-wisdom’ though, and I encourage you to ‘master’ a subject of your own.
So, what am I saying?
There’s really no such thing as a ‘master’. It’s just a made up label people give to people who’ve made some pretty impressive progress in their lives.
Masters, like teachers and students, are still hungry-for-growth, and are still contributing the best way they know how, and experimenting, failing, and tweakin’.
It’s just that someone unpracticed can’t really notice a ‘masters’ mistakes or the subtle tweaks that they make in their lives.
(Sidenote: Most people at a master-phase are so habitual and so passionate about their subject, that they teach it deeply and powerfully without judgment, or analysis, eagerly making people better and even intending that their students will shine much brighter than them.)Masters are teachers who’ve become so clear and practiced, that they habitually apply & improve, without a thought given to it.
For a master of a certain subject, everything’s on auto-pilot, covered by powerful habits.
What This Means For You
It means that whatever phase you’re in, you’re doing fine, and you’re learning to balance them all in a way that suits you.
It means to be cool with yourself; be gentle. Understand that everyone progresses through these phases.
- Understand that it’s okay to be a judgmental punk as you ‘take’ from society.
- Understand that it’s okay to teach, to a point, and maybe not even feel fully confident in your expertise.
- Understand that eventually you’ll becoming ‘masterful’ (which just means Very Very Practiced) at subjects you give your attention to, and it feels great.
And if you want a powerful jumpstart on this stuff, check out Ryze’s Info-graphic: How To Learn Like A Boss: The Hidden Steps, below.
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