10 REASONS PORN MATTERS: STORY OF THE PORN PRESIDENT

The dark night made the screen seem brighter.

My house was asleep and I felt conflicted, ’cause being bad felt so good.

I snuck around with soft footfalls ’cause I was doing something I wasn’t ‘supposed to.’

In the bubble of my conservative childhood, my late-night activities were one-hundred percent taboo.

See, my parents raised me to be a high-integrity, upstanding, loving guy — they nurtured me and blessed me with many gifts. They did an outstanding job.

That job did not include teaching me to openly adore naked women, or to go anywhere near porn.

In fact, I was told porn was ‘evil.’

Hmm.

Well despite that, and it taking twenty minutes to load an image on my ’90s internet connection– I still risked Dad’s scalding fury & Mom’s heart-breaking disappointment for a glimpse of nameless women who’d somehow become heaven for my eyes, a focus for my pleasure.

I flicked a nervous glance over my shoulder, body alert & poised to act in case of parental intrusion.

<shudda-shuddahhh-THRUMM!>

Every shudder of the ventilation in my basement made me jump, as if burned.

<creeeeak>

Oh god, was that Mom creeping down the basement stairs?

“You’re dead, J,” the sounds seemed to shout.

I thought I was caught for sure, so I slammed power-off on the PC.

My breath froze, my jaw clenched, my eyelids shuttered, and darkness blanketed the room. No other sounds filtered through the thick silence.

I should’ve given up then.

But I was hungry to feel that thrilling arousal of pleasure, so I kept downloading jessy-spreads-on-beach10731.jpg.

I knew I was being ‘bad,’ and that I’d be caught if I kept going, but somehow…

…I knew it was worth it.

***

We hate what we don’t understand.

There’s a boat-load of negative connotations with porn, and peeps love a scandal.

Fine then. Let’s admit up front there are dark sides to porn, but who cares? That’s not special.

There’s dark sides to everything, ’cause things are neutral. It’s our intentions that give things meaning.

What’s evil one day can be world-saving on another.

A gun a hundred years ago allowed hunters to feed their families. A gun last year gets mishandled by a cop, cutting short the life of an innocent.

I could write an article about how hammers should be praised ’cause they build stuff or I could write one about how they should be banned ’cause they bludgeon people.

Nakedness isn’t inherently bad. Who came up with that? Can we sit down with ’em and ask what they meant and why

Geez.

I’m sick of hearing how shameful & degrading sex is.

Russell Brand, a dude who’s views I generally enjoy, got a lot of attention for his anti-porn rant shortly after 50 Shades came out. I agree with many of his points, but I feel he’s ignoring some key things.

I’ve started spending time over at SuicideGirls and Fetlife, ’cause they’re places I can connect with like-minded people. It’s that or move to L.A.

Or Europe I guess, they don’t seem to have the same hang-ups as the West.

So what happened here that “recorded sex” became some world-shattering tragedy?

Sigh.

 

I could write a book and still fail to change anyone’s views — so I’m just doing this for me. Expressing my thoughts in case I die tomorrow. If you’re open-minded enough maybe you can appreciate ’em.

Ready for some stories & ideas on porn?

WHERE TO START?

You can dive into Mia’s story, or get right to my ideas about porn.

 

The page is divided into sections. Light sections are a story about pornstar Mia’s journey to overcome doubts, habits, & haters to become the first pornstar President.

Dark sections are related ideas & opinions about porn that may shift your perspective, affirm your beliefs, or piss you off.

Either way, happy to share, much love 🙂

 

Click to read Mia’s story:

PornstarPresident

Or click for porn idea one:

Porn & Proud

CHAPTER 1: Comfort Zones

 

Butterflies danced fear in Mia’s belly.

She paused in a moment of fear, her finger hovering over the ‘post’ button.

She knew pressing it had major consequences, from destroying her main source of income to attracting hate from millions, to losing the lion’s share of her fans.

It was technically just an innocent facebook post, baring her soul and expressing her true feelings. She’d done it thousands of times before.

But this time it was so much more.

It was a giant change in her direction.

It was a declaration of a new identity.

A pornstar no more. Or at least, no longer ‘just’ a pornstar. The world needed someone to step up and she felt in her heart she was the one.

The world needed to stop fighting sexuality, let-go of repressed judgment, and do something more helpful than bullying sex-workers into self-hate.

Mia’s plan to go from porn-to-politics was beyond controversial, it was game-changing, especially for those who felt body-shamed.

Mia’s eyes moistened just from thinking that word.

Shame.

 

 

1. Porn is people being proud of their pleasure.

Body-love and showing-off as a service, is nothing to be ashamed of.

Pornstars are valuable people.

Funeral directors. Acupuncturists. Mystery-shoppers. All provide value & serve a purpose. They may not be everyone’s favorite, but these peeps offer a certain section of clients increased variety, improved service, more convenience and a bunch of other good things.

Pornstars, models, and escorts, even if they’re not everyone’s favorite job, provide much value to their clients.

Porn is a natural pleasure.

Somehow older humans have chosen to raise younger ones to be ashamed of their bodies, emotions, & impulses. It’s “right” to watch violence, but watching people enjoy physical pleasure? That’s wrong, do it in secret or not at all, & surely not in anything close to ‘public.’

Be pleasure-proud: cats, dogs, apes, & everything else in nature is born shameless. So are we all.

Porn can be a heartfelt calling.

Many argue porn is harmful, but look at harm caused by well-meaning surgeons. Look at accidents car-makers had a hand in. A pornstar aiming to give pleasure isn’t auto-harming, any more than doctors or car-makers.

All jobs can be abused or used lovingly to help others. Follow your heart, whether that’s a porn phase like Mischa Brooks or a porn career like Nina Hartley.

Porn, like any art, has creative variety.

If porn wasn’t creative we would’ve discovered ‘missionary’ way back when, and basically never changed it up. Up until fairly recently, blowjobs were a rare, ultra-secretive indulgence.

As porn expanded, we got costumes, toys, location-sex, multiple orgasms, g-spots, and more positions than the Kama Sutra.

Porn’s an artform to be proud of, allowing beautiful expression & creative variety. Does that mean everyone’s a masterful artist, or that you’ll personally love every creation? Does it mean that appreciating people sharing physical pleasure is degrading?

No, of course not.

Legendary adult photographer/videographer Holly Randall nails it in her interview here (1:40).

 

And it’s fine if some (or all) porn isn’t your thing.

Maybe you’re a natural conservative who rocks no boats, that’s cool. There’s covered-ankle victorian images for you.

Maybe you’re a boundary-pushing liberal, that’s cool too. There’s edgy, kink-filled porn for you.

There’s proud variety and pleasure in porn.

“I think performers are all show-offs anyway.” – Elton John

 

Chapter 2: Be Shameless More

 

Shame’s a searing emotion for a woman who desires to show off her god-given (or hand-crafted) beauty.

With two-hundred plus films under her belt, Mia’d done more showing-off than most women.

And she’d learned that shame is a bullshit emotion.

It’s roots lay in judgment, misunderstanding, and dismissal.

Shame came from group A aiming to make group B feel shitty for their choices, without understanding the life experience, heart, and meaning behind those choices.

Sure, maybe it’s fine to be ashamed of something that’s really ‘you’, but it sucks to feel shame for showing your true colors.

And on this great world of ours, some people’s true-colors happen to be… porn.

Just like some are born to compete in public, some are born to set Guinness records for eating metal, and some peeps were meant to show-off their bodies.

Those were Mia’s true colors. She’d always known it deep in her bones.

Just like she knew she had to press the ‘post’ button.

The button that would show-off the new Mia to the world.

Still Mia hesitated as ideas buzzed through her brain.

Pornstars aren’t allowed in politics. The thought quirked her mouth down.

Pornstars get pigeon-holed as shallow sex objects and that’s as far as their careers go.

Bolder ones like Sasha Grey, Sunny Leone, or Riley Steele managed to cross-over to directing or acting in mainstream movies.

Some became a ‘sexpert’ like Madison Young or Seska.

Basically there were a few neat little boxes ex-pornstars got slapped into, at least in America.

Mia knew she had the heart & vision needed to ryze beyond her pornstar label, and she wasn’t gonna move to Europe to do it.

She dreamed of being something legendary, no matter what society thought.

And she remembered the spark that really set her off.

 

 

2. Porn can be a vital phase, and there’s life beyond porn.

Porn opened doors for the 3 stars below to grow beyond the label.

Nikki Benz for mayor?

Nikki Benz in 2014 announced her candidacy for Mayor Of Toronto, aiming to replace Rob Ford. She touched on issues like gay rights, economy, and transportation and ran on a platform of honesty & transparency.

Bree Olson does comedy.

Bree Olson put her massively successful porn career behind her and moved to mainstream acting. Shortly after that she successfully funded her Kickstarter Campaign to film and produce her own comedy series “Bree Does Comedy.”

Sasha Grey exits on top.

Sasha Grey successfully transitioned from an award-winning porn career into a number of other fields. From mainstream movies and TV, to high-fashion modelling, to publishing multiple books, photography, and more.

There’s life after porn.

Porn isn’t some kind of vortex that overpowers and victimizes people. There’s countless examples of people who’ve had a porn phase, and whether they enjoyed it or hated it, they learned from it and moved forward with their lives and relationships.

People need to take a breath and admit that porn’s just an activity, like every other activity, that can be right for the right person at the right time, or… not.

It’s up to each of us to decide individually what suits us. It’s not for a bunch of finger-pointers to judge and decide our life path.

“I have nothing but good memories when I look back.” – Asia Carrera

 

Chapter 3: Sparks & Shivers

 

This time last year, Mia felt more confident.

High-end lingerie decorated her generous curves as she lay across her bed, snuggling with her cats and idly surfing TV channels.

“It’s weird how clothing can influence behavior, y’know?” She spoke.

Wiffles and Letty just purred in response, but she knew they understood.

If she was dressed in sweats Mia would’ve lounged lazily, ignoring the news spot on CityTV that fateful day.

The reporter was interviewing porn starlet Nikki Benz on her mock campaign against mayor of Toronto, Rob Ford.

A pornstar running for mayor, Mia thought, no way.

She didn’t blink as the newscast went on to say that it was all just a joke publicity stunt.

Just a stunt?

Mia jumped up, thanked her lucky bra, and acted.

She started writing down ideas for her own —real— political campaign.

Nikki may’ve been joking, but Mia was sincere.

And she wasn’t aiming for mayor, her sights were on President of the U.S.

A pornstar president? Yes way.

 

 

3. Many things we all love came from porn advancing society.

Humanity has created and invented so much… all ’cause of porn.

Porn gives better Internet we love.

6.2 billion pageviews per month & ryzing. That’s Pornhub.com. Three times bigger than CNN or ESPN, & twice as big as Reddit. This is record-setting bandwidth and like anything in life, a high-demand inspires innovation and improvement. Porn sparks growth (heh).

Porn sparks improved business models.

Many industries resist adopting new ideas. Not porn though. Porn was re-selling content long before the news-industry did it.The MPAA was anti-VHS & anti-digital video, but the porn industries leveraged both to provide value to their clients & profit through it.

Porn spawns mediums from video to virtual.

‘Til the late 1970s, porn films accounted for more than half of all VHS sales, which would’ve struggled as a format without it. Same goes for the printing press and digital cameras. And no one may talk about it, but everyone’s imagining virtual reality sex. Porn advances society.

So many inventions people use daily, inspired by porn.

Camera phones, e-commerce, fiber-lines, and camera-phones may not have been invented for porn, but they were adopted, embraced, and nurtured in their early release by the makers and consumers and lovers of porn.

Without people’s love of sex these great things may’ve not been invented or at least have taken many years longer to be realized.

Hating porn is like hating the existence of many things we all love, use, and rely on daily.

Our freshly digital society owes a lot to porn.

Society grows and evolves through sex, directly or indirectly.

“Sexually restrictive cultures gave us the Dark Ages and the Holocaust.” – Alan Moore

 

Chapter 4: Clickable Hate

 

She couldn’t tell if her shiver came from excitement, fear, or both.

The ‘post’ button was mocking her, she was sure of it.

Oh sure, it looked like an innocent blue pixel-block, but Mia felt malice radiating from it.

Could she really shed her pornstar stigma and be seen as an authority, a humanitarian, a leader?

Mia closed her eyes, breathed out a sigh, clicked ‘post’ and watched the hate pour in.

Okay, that’s not exactly what happened, instead her Facebook page refreshed and the world didn’t end, but that’s what it felt like.

And over the next few weeks, the hate did pour in.

Mia’s “Starlet For Senate” post became a target for some of the most venomous trolling on the ‘net.

  • “You’re not smart, stick to porn.”
  • “Talentless and disgusting, we need a real leader.”
  • “Porn ruins families, how dare you!”

And that was tip of the iceberg. Haters were out in full-force, at least the one’s who still followed her. Many fans just left. Mia lost forty percent of all followers across all social media.

And though she had a lot of practice handling haters, she was hurt when even friends and family discouraged her transition.

She wondered if she’d ever shake off her sister’s cluelessly hurtful “Oh be realistic, Mia.”

Her lip quivered and she failed miserably at stopping her salt-laced mascara from coursing designs across her cheeks.

She shed tears for her fans, family, and dreams, ‘cause she loved them but they seemed to be abandoning her.

Mia felt it was her own fault for posting.

Her cats nuzzled against her sensing she needed some love, but that just made her cry harder for some reason.

When her tears dried, feeling empty, Mia lit up a cigarette and headed out to the bar.

 

 

4. Pornstars are people, too.

It breaks my heart to see human beings targeted, demonized, & bullied. How ’bout you?

Are pornstars bullied?

Racism, ageism, sexism or some other -ism are all easy to spot. Whether starting porn or leaving it, there’s plenty of vocal haters discouraging models & performers. For anyone pursuring a goal haters sting, and some are excessively cruel bullies.

Is porn addictive?

Johann Hari‘s spent years studying addiction and found it’s not a specific drug or porno that’s a key factor in addiction, it’s the mindset of the user. Lonely, depressed users can easily be addicted, happy, fulfilled people not so much.

Are pornstars shallow?

Is it shallow to expose skin and also profit from it? Or is it a deeper stand on sexual repression and values? We thought the earth was flat. We thought man couldn’t fly. We think selling sex is shallow. But is it really?

Pornstars choose a bold path, and deserve respect.

They’ve chosen the uncommon choice to show off their bodies. They choose to make profit through their god-given gifts. They choose to enhance their bodies through decoration, surgery, and more all to provide a more exhilarating entertainment experience.

They’re doing bold, scary, leading-edge things in society that most people hate on, rail against, or hide in shame.

They don’t deserve trolling, hate, slut-shaming, or bullying.

They’re human beings, and whether they’re exploring a dark phase in their life and learning from it, or they’re blissfully following their true calling, please show ’em some basic decency.

“You can’t blame porn… I used to masturbate to Gilligan’s Island.” – Ron Jeremy

 

Chapter 5: J-Ryze

 

Mia needed a break from being a drunken cat-lady.

Lately, a visit to her local watering hole was the only time she left her condo.

Since “the post”, she’d cut herself off from social media and hid inside, sporadically drowning her sorrows in a Stella at The Firkin.

It was a fantastic place to go numb, a refuge where people didn’t know her, and if any did, they respected her privacy.

On top of that it was where she invited J-Ryze to meet her.

He was one of the few people who’d help her connect to the best version of her, and he was awesome at it.

Mia’s heart felt raw and she felt far from beautiful, but she sipped her wine and waited for his arrival.

A glance at her watch made her nervous ‘cause J was usually prompt, or early, so she glanced around and was pleasantly surprised to see him smiling, seated in a back booth.

She shakily made her way over, and started feeling even better as soon as she came into his presence.

God, everyone needed a J-Ryze.

“Hey beautiful, how ya feelin’?”

“Uhm, not so hot.”

“Good, it’d be weird if you were jumping for joy.”

Mia’s laugh felt too loud for the quiet booth, but was desperately needed.

“What’s botherin’ ya, Mia?”

“God, everything, J. I came out of the closet on presidency goals and now my life’s upside down. I live on ice-cream and cigarettes and you’re the only person I talk to where I’m not walking on eggshells.” Mia pursued her lips and sucked in a breath. “Plus the media’s going nuts, though thankfully haven’t started physically stalking me… yet.”

J-Ryze’s smile widened and his gaze deepened, but he didn’t say a word.

“I thought I could do this. I thought I’d be able to make a difference, the first pornstar to make it in politics, but it was stupid, I was—”

“—Stop. Stop, Mia, stop.” Jay interrupted her before her voice cracked, “breathe.”

Mia’s famous breasts rose noticeably as her lungs co-operated.

“Look, Mia, you can do this. Everything’s on track, really.”

“But—”

“—it is. Be honest are you in physical pain?”

“No.”

“Good, and you’ve made a bold public move. Is backlash natural when someone does that?”

“Yes, but even my family—”

“Ah, ah, you’re blazing a trail, Mia. Does it make sense that others’ll ‘get’ it? ‘Specially if they themselves aren’t trailblazers?”

“Well no. OK, I see what you’re saying—”

“I’m not saying anything, babe, you are. I’m just asking questions. And my next question is this: did you know in your heart that you’re the right woman for this when you first thought of it?”

The silence between them stretched out like pulled taffy.

“You’re a huge dick.”

“Well, I’ve got one.”

Mia giggled and J-Ryze gestured his open palms in acceptance, thrilled to see her go from near tears to lovable laughter.

Then he waved a cute waitress over, gave her too much money, and said “C’mon babe, let’s go kickstart your campaign.”

 

Shit just got real…

 

 

5. Porn, like all forms of expression, can be beautiful.

Sunsets, flowers, and naked bodies. All are beautiful.

Porn versus art.

There’s some arbitrary line that people argue over, whether something is categorized as art, or porn. It’s silly. Beauty’s in the eye of the beholder. If someone wants to hate or fear an image, they will. If another wants to love and value an image, they will too.

James and Stoya see the beauty.

James Deen & Stoya are two iconic, intelligent, articulate pornstars that were in a long-term relationship together. They saw each other & their work, their fans, their co-workers as beautiful. (Update: at least prior to the recent scandal.)

Porn is a form of entertainment.

Hollywood blockbusters arouse & entertain. So do viral youtube videos. So does porn. People coming (heh) together to create something which arouses and entertains others is beautiful. Some like comedies, some like dramas, and some like porn… or other. 😉

Porn celebrates what we all have bodily pleasure.

Unlike many churches, that do their best to cover bodies, porn sends the message that it’s okay to enjoy, indulge, celebrate, share, and profit from our bodies &mdash in a variety of forms.

It can be abused like anything, but at the core of it, is an acceptance of bodies, and if you explore the many flavors of porn out there, you’ll find they celebrate everything from nude amputees to clown sex.

I’d love to see more of society accept and be open to these things instead of bitterly raging against it.

Once again, Holly Randall drops the mic, “Let the world see what these girls are really like and let them see that they’re strong, empowered, independent women with a great sense of humor, with a head on their shoulders, who are going down a career path that they’ve chosen of their own accord— girls who are proud of what they do.”:

“Pornography is somebody else’s erotica that you don’t like.” – Erica Jong

 

Chapter 6: Cam-pain

 

…And Mia’s life just got harder.

She felt better with J-Ryze to bounce decisions off of, and she was clearer than ever on moving forward, but damn was campaigning hard.

It was even harder when you’d swore you wouldn’t go back to porn to fund-raise for it.

Mia needed an alternative income, fast.

Donations? Signed autographs? Kickstarter?

Actually, that last one seemed doable, so she partnered up with long time marketing-friend Kymber Vick, and put together unique pledge- and reward- levels, then launched her Kickstarter Campaign, “Starlet For Senate.”

Technically, it’d solve the alternative income issue.

But it brought up a new one. Kickstarters only work if you have supporters who’ll pledge, and Mia’s fanbase had been decimated in the months since she’d made her fateful post.

Plus she’d been on hiatus from any media interviews since her spot on the Buffington Post.

The headline had read “Denial, Not Dream.” and the sub-head followed with “Pornstar claims she’s qualified for senate-seat.”

Mia cried for days after-wards.

That’s what she got for trusting the media.

But, staring at the few thousand dollars in her Kickstarter account, she knew she needed them.

For a moment Mia felt a deep longing to go back to fucking on film.

Maybe the trolls were right and that’s all she was really good for.

Porn was reliable revenue, people bought her stuff.

She knew porn took talent and practice and that it was challenging in it’s own ways, but the real truth was she was a natural.

Sex felt so much easier than politics.

 

 

6. Porn can be something worth sharing.

People share videos of their pets, people, & nature in all kinds of situations, why not sex?

Pleasure recorded and shared.

Porn is on-screen pleasure. People make an effort to do something pleasurable, record it and distribute it. Others make an effort to find it and view it. Everyone shares and benefits and multiplies the pleasure received.

TV sharing sex vs. violence.

The porn industry may have a darker side, but does it really compare to mass-media’s glorification of violence & negativity? Porn, when not corrupted, is sex-positive people who’re celebrating the human body.

Society shuts down the sharing of porn.

Making fun of Kanye is an acceptable share. Moaning about drama in your life is an acceptable share. Proudly embracing physical pleasure on film? Hide it or society will shun you.

Sharing porn can be a worthy pursuit.

It’s natural for a child to smile, a flower to bloom, a person to experiment, and it’s natural for us to take a photo and share it.

From cave-drawings to youtube videos, humanity is inspired to share examples, stories, and expression. And after millenia of doing this, it’s always resulted in an increased standard of living.

Say you had the choice of sharing 4 hours of violence today, or 4 hours of people pleasuring each other, which would you choose, and why?

What if society’s got it (unsurprisingly) all confused, and the truth is that watching sex is a far more beautiful and worthy pursuit than we realize?

“Yes, my husband watches porn. And I’m more than OK with it.” – Lara Michelle

 

Chapter 7: Resistance

 

The sky darkened, mirroring Mia’s mood.

God, she thought, 21 days left on her fund-raiser, and she’d raised a measley $17,468 of her $250,000 goal.

She sparked her lighter angrily while Kymber chattered on about making porn movies.

“…we could call it F***in’ USA, or Porn For The People, or—”

Mia’s head snapped away from her living room window.

“Enough Kym. We’ve been over this, I wanna win this thing clean.”

“God girl, the donations so far are from guys who jack off to you on the regular. You telling me you gotta problem with that?”

“The problem’s that I wanna be taken seriously. I wanna look back and know that I did won I’m a worthy leader, not just cuz we put out a movie of me stripping to Amazing Grace.”

“I get that, I do, but you won’t be doing anything if we don’t get some cash, fast.”

“Well, I could sell my mansion.”

Lightning flashed at this very moment, and Mia wasn’t sure if that was a good sign or not.

Feeling conflicted seemed on the menu lately.

“Are you freakin’ serious? You won’t use porn but you’ll ditch your house? You gots messed up priorities, girl. And hey, I thought you quit smoking.”

“I basically did. And then started again.” Kym’s eyebrow raised. “Shutup.”

“I ain’t say nuthin’, girl.” Her brow arched even higher.

“Look, I’ve made business plans, tapped investors, sold merchandise—”

“You won’t make a new movie, and you keep refusing interviews. You do realize that campaigns pretty much need the media, right? I mean, I’m all for doing things your own way, but this just feels silly, Mi!”

“Sigh. I know.”

“Well, have you asked J?”

“I feel shitty bugging him with more questions.”

“But he loves questions. And you. In more ways than one.”

“Shut. Up, Kym. He does not. But you’re right, he’ll prolly give me shit for waiting this long.”

“So call him… and lemme watch. Or join.”

“You’re such a slut.”

“Yep, a slut and proud of it. Now call.”

 

 

7. Porn is a valuable foundation of the economy.

Y’know the economy peeps get worried about? Porn’s healing it in big ways.

Simple pleasures are treasured.

During The Great Depression, when nearly everyone was afraid to spend on anything, simple pleasures & entertainments like pulp fiction were a key factor in pulling the economy out of it’s nose-dive. Today, we have porn.

50 Shades of job creation.

Despite arguments that 50 Shades Of Grey by E.L. James shows an abusive, skewed version of BDSM, it’s still the world’s top-selling book. The movie did similarly, flowing hundreds of millions of dollars to staff. A huge economic surge.

Don't like porn? Change it.

Say what you want, but porn’s a foundation of society, fighting it is like fighting the ocean, air, or some other omni-present substance. You don’t bitch uselessly at foundations, you accept ’em, work with ’em, or create your own.

Appreciate the value of porn.

Dollars flowing, pleasure shared, jobs created, conversations started, and so much more value comes from porn.

Compare that to the a couch-potato who gives the bare minimum at a job he hates for 140 hours a week, then gets online to rage at pornstars.

What’s more valuable, the empty hate, or the blossoming packaged-pleasure industry?

“The magnitude and impact of pornography is truly staggering.” – Sam Spencer

 

Chapter 8: Mansplained?

 

Mia met J-Ryze at The Firkin.

This time she claimed the booth first. Jay sat down and jumped right in.

“Why the hell didn’t you call me, Mia?”

Mia knew this wasn’t the time for pleasantries, she’d hurt his feelings.

“I dunno, just- I guess I wanted to do it myself.”

“Why? A plumber won’t build a whole house himself, and he’s not doing the carpenter’s job.”

“I know but— like—”

“But— like— what? Getting a senate seat is not something to do alone.”

“Well, I told myself I couldn’t use you, the same way I promised myself I couldn’t use porn to fund-raise—”

“WHAT?! Wait a minute. You decided to cut off your main talent, the thing that makes your campaign a game-changer?”

“Yeah—”

“Why again!?”

“Uhm…”

“No ‘uhms’, Mia. By turning your back on porn, you’re just as bad as your trolls. It’s a hugely valuable income stream, it brings joy to people, and using it would give you a huge boost in fans and cashflow.”

“That’s just how it’s done. Jenna Jameson quit the biz to be an author. Sasha Grey quit to be a director. I figured I’d quit to be a leader. ‘Sides, I’m scared of the media.”

“Hmmm… ok. Ok. I get it. Lemme ask: are you no longer interested in porn, talking or performing, or is it something you’ll stand up for on the campaign trail?”

“Oh, I still love porn J.”

She glowed to talk about it. “I believe sex is the best experience nature provides, pleasure beats torture and it deserves to be embraced.”

“Right, so you’re different than the women you listed. They were totally off porn.”

Mia’s mouth worked silently. She could feel that rush of realization starting, the one that came when J was dropping truth-bombs.

“You’re in a unique pos-ish to proudly propel porn into a fresh light. Don’t you feel it’s best to use what you’re so proud of as a tool, instead of putting it on a shelf? You’re not Jenna, or Sasha… you’re Mia!”

“Wow. Ok. Fine, yes. I agree you. But how? Do I just talk about it more? Film a new flick with Kym? Fuck my contributors?”

“Whoa, whoa, stay with me, we’ll get to that, but first let’s address your media-fear.”

“k.”

“Why’re you scared of the media?”

“They always take a negative view of porn and paint me in a horrible light. God. You try it sometime and see how it feels!”

“Hah, ok, ok. Much props to you for handling the pressure so far. Honestly, being a social lightning rod’s not for me. But you’ve done it before, you’re good at it. That’s why I’m dedicated to helping you, not being you.”

Mia blushed.

“Now, the media defaults to a negative view ‘cause of three things. Your targeting, your presentation, and their fear. Two of which you can change, and by doing so, you relieve the third.”

“Wha? Whadda you mean?”

“Knowledge trumps fear. Always has, always will.”

“People are scared of a sexual woman blessed with an idealized body taking a position of true cultural leadership.”

“Ee gee: ‘me’.”

“Exactly. They’re scared of their beliefs about sex and porn being overturned, and what that’d do to their friends and families. They’re scared of change. They’re scared of unwanted babies, and rape, and diseases—”

“It’s really not unsafe, and there are—”

“—many ways around that stuff, I know, Mia, I know. Point is peeps are scared, yes, but if they understood what you and I understand, if they were armed with knowledge, they’d be more chill.”

“Fine, but it’s not like I can change their fear, J.”

“Yes you can, or at least you can make it easier to change.”

“How?” Mia edged forward on her seat.

“With compelling stories aimed at great relationships. You choose the right media outlet, gently start a relationship with them, and you share the right story with ‘em.”

“Ohhhhh-kaaaay?” Mia floundered.

J sighed. “Look, pick something negative the media thinks about you.”

“That I’m shallow, dumb, and unqualified to lead.”

“So you start with a porn-friendly rag and give an exclusive. Can you name one?”

“Vice.”

“K, so you share a story that shows how real leaders need to be as bold and as intuitive as pornstars and fake leaders pussy out. Show how a leader who stands up for body-love, will also take the best care of our lonely, beleaguered soldiers. Show how a leader who comes from the most disrespected industry and still grows her career, can easily deal with the pressure of international incidents.”

“That’s brilliant, J! I love it!”

“Booyah. Have you ever been touched by a story and then decided on a better way to live?”

Mia laughed remembering her first hearing of “The Tortoise And The Hare.”

“Exactly. You get it. Now, name another media lie.”

“That I use sex to manipulate people.”

“So share a story that shows how —much like a gun— sex is a tool, and can be used to needlessly abuse others, defend our country, or feed families and provide food. The story asks who we trust with a gun: 1) a native hunter raised to revere life and wastes nothing from the animal, or 2) some random kid who found his Dad’s gun? Implying that the pornstar is the trained hunter and we can trust her with the her own sexuality, as well as the country’s.”

“Wow. Yes, a story that shows the truth about sex instead of oversimplified ‘carrot and stick’ shit!”

“Yes. Wanna name another? ”

“Uh, no, it’s fine, I get it. I’m gonna get to work on a film with a different story.”

 

 

8. Porn isn’t innately ‘bad’, people are just ignorant of it’s value.

Sadly some people just aren’t ready for the truth, so they hide & live in denial.

'Selling' sex is totally fine.

Why’s everyone down on ‘selling’ sex? Daniel Pink’s recent book “To Sell is Human: The Surprising Truth About Moving Others” shows how even though most people don’t realize it, we’re all always selling something. It’s fine to ‘sell’ sex, and for some peeps, buying sex is the only way they’ll ever experience it.

Educate yourself: knowledge beats fear.

People didn’t understand the solar system, and had Galileo locked up for speaking the truth. People didn’t understand germs and blamed superstitious creatures as the cause of disease. Even now we’re discovering new things all the time, and once new knowledge is proved, most people drop their fears and lies.

Porn doesn't 'corrupt' people.

Just as someone into weight-lifting wants to try different exercises, and someone into reading samples different books, a person into sex will experiment with different sex-acts. A lifter can injure himself, a reader can become anti-social, but it’s not the activity that causes the ‘corruption.’

A lot of people don’t ‘get’ porn.

Many say porn’s degrading. Many say it’s ungodly.

Since I love porn, it’d make sense for me to argue against these things, but there’s more to it than that. I wanna show my love of pleasure and sexuality, and acknowledge that porn can be degrading and ungodly.

Keyphrase: “can be,” but it doesn’t have to be.

It’s up to each of us to live our own complex lives and sort out what’s right for ourselves. No one can do it for us. Figuring out what suits isn’t a responsibility that can be delegated.

Porn’s a complex subject, and it can be approached with an open mind, or narrow, stubborn opinion.

“You can’t talk about fucking…but if you talk about killing, that’s cool.” – Richard Pryor

 

Chapter 9: Surrender

 

Copious beer bottles dotted the spaces between pizza boxes.

Cigarette butts overflowed the ash-trays. Mia had been shut in her home for weeks trying to film compelling stories on her webcam in-time for her Kickstarter campaign.

And now on deadline night, puffing away at a habit she was supposed to have quit, Mia had failed.

In fact, somehow, she’d made things worse.

What was wrong with people? Couldn’t they accept that she’d given them tons of pleasure in her performances, and now she wanted to give more by stepping up to make the world happier… and sexier?

The trolls piled right on.

  • “Pornstar for president? Puh-leeze.”
  • “Oooh teach us more, your porn-highness.”
  • “I just mute her and watch her eat ass.”

Sigh.

Apparently no one wanted to hear a half-naked pornstar express her views on sex and society on cam, and she was now a laughing stock.

She’d gotten closer, but didn’t have time, resources, or team to do much more.

Kym tried to help, but her best idea was for Mia to do some porn, get some money, and start campaigning in full force.

“Didn’t J tell you to use porn to win?” she remembered Kym prodding the day before.

“Kinda. He said to use my gifts, but he also said to share the right stories with the right people, and that’s what I’m trying to do.” Mia knew Kymber was trying to help, as always.

“My Sister’s Hot Friend’s the only story you need, girl.”

Oh well, Mia felt people needed something new. A new story for a new paradigm. She almost laughed out loud when she realized no one would believe she even knew the word ‘paradigm.’

Her circles were small, and small-minded.

The only directors she could call had names like ‘Dr. X’, and were clueless about compelling storytelling.

And when she tried it herself, it just didn’t come out like it did when J-Ryze explained it.

Fuck.

The worst part was that the Kickstarter was just to get things off the ground. It was like a test, if she could raise that much on her own, political players would pay attention.

The real campaign trail was meant to start afterwards. She’d had book deals and speaking events in the works and everything.

Mia felt like she’d barely even gotten started.

Maybe she should sell her house. Or do a bunch of scenes.

She gulped her wine down and blew smoke out of her lungs as her dreams wafted away.

Then she emailed her agent to book her first Brazzers shoot in 6 months.

 

 

9. Like many once-marginalized industries, porn evolves.

Like tattoos, yoga, & tech, sexuality grows more accepted.

Tattoos, piercings, and porn, oh my.

There’s a mirror for porn’s growth in tattoo-culture. Once it was extremely edgy to get a tattoo, but it’s evolved to a point where it’s almost edgy to be tattoo-free, seems like everyone’s got one now. Or piercings. Hmm…

Porn, like the tech industry, grows fast.

Before kids would use technology rarely, spending most of their time playing in fields. Now they play on screens and when they’re outside they always have a phone nearby. This is evolution: tech changes, and so does sex.

Accept that all arenas change.

Women used to have to have their ankles covered, now they can show off a lot more, but not to minors. Things can and will change further.

All the ‘bad’ stuff about porn may change.

Everything that bugs people about porn right now, might be totally different in a few years. A simple look at history can be super enlightening.

Predicting life’s twists & turns properly is unlikely and not recommended.

Hugh Hefner, 50 Shades Of Grey, and Big Love have already made new sexuality more acceptable.

What’s next? Who knows. How long will it take to arrive? Probably quicker than you think.

The problem-parts of porn will change if they’re meant to.

“Porn’s no longer a sideshow to the mainstream…it is the mainstream.” – Frank Rich

 

Chapter 10: Light Up The Room

 

Life works in mysterious ways.

Although Mia felt empty inside when she gave up, that Brazzer’s shoot was actually the switch that flipped things around for her.

On set she was cringing at the thought of telling J she couldn’t act on his advice, and at the thought of Kymber’s reaction to her return to porn.

She knew it was fine to leverage it, but it still felt like a self-betrayal, and she felt she should’ve had the ‘right story for the right people’ by now.

Regardless, Mia prided herself on giving her all once she committed to something, so she put on her best performance.

And because of that she made friends with the cast.

And because of that they took her to the wrap-party.

And because of that she met Vince McKewan.

Vince was a ‘real’ director. Tall, vigorous and in his fifties, he had a Hollywood resume and a bunch of feature films under his belt.

He was mostly aloof during the party but gravitated toward Mia.

He wore dark slacks and a grey silk shirt rolled up over his forearms. He had a head of magnificent silver locks framing a strong face with a dark, short beard.

Mia figured he liked her boobs, and was happy to share a flash or two, but she didn’t feel attractive. She had to give all the money she’d raised back, and had just put her political plans on the back-burner to crank out another scene.

Vince made a powerful first impression by picking up on her vibe and asking Mia what was wrong.

He was a sincere, outside, listening ear.

Mia gushed out her pains, frustrations, and fears in a torrent, while the filmmaker listened attentively.

Her tale of woe was punctuated by an embarrassed silence. It felt like the music volume awkwardly lowered at that exact moment.

Vince saved the conversation, “You know, Mia, I almost skipped this gig, but I had a weird feeling I needed to be here.”

“Yeah?”

“Yes, I’ve been looking for inspiration, itching to direct, and I feel I may’ve just found it. Come, sit with me.”

It wasn’t long before they were talking porn and politics, and more than that, storytelling. So began Vince and Mia’s collaboration, and Mia always celebrates the day she broke her porn sabbatical, which resulted in a cash injection and an exhilarating partnership.

Giving up and ‘going back’ to porn was Mia’s saving grace.

 

 

10. Most porn-fans have lame answers to haters.

Here’s common hate offered toward porn, and my responses.

'Ew, porn objectifies!'

Let’s say porn does actually objectify, why’s that bad? If I want a break from life, and wanna pretend I’m someone else like an actor does, or play pretend like a kid does, is that bad? If I want to turn off my mind and responsibilities for an hour, alone as an object to be used to give pleasure to another human I intimately trust… that’s 100% ok.

'Sex is for pro-creation only.'

Really? Birth’s the only possible reason to have sex is just silly. The reason we have this insane, unstoppable, sublime physical pleasure available to us on earth is to spit out a kid and not to enjoy the most natural pleasure around? I guess nature wanted us to spend more time on hobbies like basket-weaving,’cause sex is ONLY for pro-creation, right? So ridiculous.

'Porn is flat-out wrong.'

If you let other people decide what’s ‘right’ and ‘wrong’, and in what situations, you’ve given up your personal power. That’s fine. Go for it, but that ain’t me. I know what helps me move me forward on my journey, and no outside influence can disconnect me from my inner-wisdom. If I feel porn is good, deep in my soul… that’s it. I don’t tell others what’s good for them, and I expect the same in return.

Sexual release creates happier humans.

Straight up, releasing sexual tension is a positive thing.

Or at least, it should be.

It’s super important for people to find a way work with and embrace their deep, primal urges. Gotta pee? Find a way to deal with that. Gnawingly hungry? Get food. Horny? Play & cum.

Porn helps people release pent-up sexual tension and relieve an uber-powerful urge in an easy, convenient way.

Satisfying urges can be done with good intentions and to the benefit of all, or it can be done harmfully.

Porn, done right, helps.

“Antiporn says porn’s always threatening, men’s mags that it’s always fabulous.” – Lisa Jervis

Chapter 11: #Porn101

 

#Porn101 took the world by storm.

Mia, Vince, and J-Ryze knew they had to make something far more appealing than ‘just porn.’ They also knew they needed something far quicker to launch than a big Hollywood production.

So they released two webisodes a week of a series called #Porn101, in which a young girl (Mia) attends a school with her friend (Kym) to learn the ins-and-outs of the porn business. Each show was a riveting story of drama and humor, and also sent a message, shedding fresh light on different parts of porn.

The “Class Is History” episode saw slut-shamed teenage-Mia becoming a proudly sexual woman, while the teacher reviewed porn industry’s evolution from ancient, worshipped nude temple-dancers to our current landscape of Brazzers to X-Art. It asked viewers to think how we’d improve things, perhaps with a Porn-president?

The “Happy Healthy Human” episode saw Mia visit a disabled man in Amsterdam, who’s only sexual pleasure was paid prostitutes, while classmates back home learned the power of pleasure in creating happy, healthy humans. It asked viewers to compare a dark repressed world where sex is shameful, with one where it’s embraced, enjoyed, and celebrated.

The “Obsessive Compulsive” episode saw a recently-dumped Mia obsessively addicted to stalking her ex’s social media, while the class learned that dealing with addictions by marginalizing an industry is silly. It asked viewers to think whether alcohol should be hated, because some people can’t handle themselves around it, and how does that apply to watching sex?

Mia’s #Porn101 webisodes set the media ablaze.

Porn rags championed it for it’s positive mainstream cross-over potential.

Dailies buzzed about it ‘cause a fresh angle on sex sells.

HBO picked it up ‘cause #Porn101 was hot and boundary-pushing.

Everyone else shared the story on social ‘cause they didn’t wanna be left out.

Sure, there were more haters than before, but they were a drop in the bucket compared to all the praise, and most importantly, donations were pouring in, and they didn’t even have a Kickstarter this time.

Mia looked around her sparkling clean home at her loving, understanding team, and had a sudden realization.

In the months of excitement it took to make #Porn101, she hadn’t touched a drink or cigarette.

Mia won senate & continued to shoot occasional porn.

Her campaign took a proud, public stand and all the secret masturbators of the world were compelled to speak up. Her loving, bold leadership brought clarity to so many misunderstandings.

She liberated every chick who’d ever made a sex tape.

She re-positioned a shamed-industry into an esteemed one.

She ushered in a more loving, accepting culture of sex-positivity.

And to think, she nearly tried winning her campaign by shutting off the cameras and hiding her body.

Revealing stories are better. Fresh views on taboos. Knowledge trumps fear.

Up next, porn-president.

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